<p>Monday, I finally received my residence hall and roommate information. I looked up my roommate on facebook first, of course. Going by her profile, I had a feeling we were quite opposite in the sense of fashion and interests, but c'est la vie. I sent her an email Tuesday, saying I was looking forward to getting to know her and moving in and to add me on facebook. As of today, nearly a week later, I have yet to receive a reply/request/anything.
I'm concerned that we're already getting off to a bad start- this is the person I'll be living with for the school year, and it's super important to me that we can get along. But her lack of response concerns me. I've communicated with other incoming students in my major who check their emails everyday and share my enthusiasm for the start of school. With the lack of such commitment from my roommate, my gut is telling me that we're even less compatible than I thought.
Anyway, I was curious as to whether I could request a new roommate considering mine has made no contact and I'm as well off as I was before finding out who she was. My school said in the housing info email that "We are still placing students into rooms as they complete their housing preferences and register at the University" so I thought I might have an opportunity to jump on the chance of getting paired with another person.</p>
<p>If anyone has experience with such a situation or any insight, I would appreciate it!</p>
<p>This might strike you as odd, but not everyone checks email or Facebook multiple times a day and there are many additional reasons the person hasn’t replied yet. It’s hardly a sign of “lack of commitment” (to WHOM, by the way?) Maybe she’s on vacation. Maybe her computer is down. Maybe she’s ill. Maybe she has a job-maybe two-and is working all kinds of hours before leaving for school. My advice is to chill out and calm down-or switch now and hope you get someone as super excited and who feels as you do and can reply at the speed you feel is necessary.</p>
<p>My D didn’t get online with her roommate last year until a few weeks before arrival and everything was fine. The kid just had a life and didn’t reply right away. I don’t think a week is a sign of anything, really.</p>
<p>Don’t jump the boat quite yet! She might not use her Facebook anymore. I personally haven’t checked my Facebook in a couple weeks. If she doesn’t replay in a couple of weeks you might want to shoot her an email and see if she responds to that. Don’t come on too strong not everyone is looking to be best friends with their new roommates. Good luck!</p>
<p>As of today, she’s had time to update her twitter and go to concerts, so I thought she might have time to contact her roommate. I have a job and commitments that take up much of my time, though I’m able to check my email for something that is relatively important. Other incoming students, myself included, are anticipating the start of school and committed to checking up on things such as our school email. I hardly found it unreasonable to assume others would do the same. I’m just nervous we won’t get along, that’s all.</p>
<p>Wow… you have to chill out. Sorry. Give it time. My roommate (we’ve lived together for two years now and are living together next year) has a facebook and goes on oh… maybe every four months? If her email isn’t from someone she knows, she won’t check it for a few weeks. Doesn’t make her a bad person. </p>
<p>You emailed her, nothing else? There’s a good chance it could have gone into her spam folder, or she deleted it when she didn’t recognize the name. What if she changed emails, or it’s a secondary account? I check my one email every few weeks, if that. If you guys don’t get along, it’s because you’re panicking after two days over someone not checking their email – over the summer. Please try to calm down before you go to school, because right now, you’re the one coming across as the problem roommate.</p>
<p>If you have something actually important to tell your roommate (“please don’t eat peanuts on move-in day because I am highly allergic”), your college will probably facilitate contact if your roommate doesn’t respond to you. </p>
<p>Otherwise… it really doesn’t matter if you discuss your interests and habits now or after you move in. I was a bit disappointed at first that my roommate didn’t care to talk to me before we moved in. Later I realized that it really didn’t matter. You’ll get to know each other soon enough.</p>
<p>OP-read what Tito said carefully, because it is spot on. Pay extra attention to the part where it says “right now, YOU’RE coming across as the problem roommate.” Because you are. My kids don’t read emails often, even when they’ve asked me to send them something. It’s a few notches down the line of ways to contact people as far as they’re concerned. </p>
<p>You also come across as really needy-like your roommate HAS to like you and be BFF’s like, right away because it’s such a super thing to do. Maybe your email was so 'let’s start right now getting to know each other so we can be all like super great roommates" that she decided to take a step back. I think I would.</p>
<p>If you have a bad feeling, go with your gut. I ended up not having too great of a relationship with my freshman roommate too. I thought about switching roommates simply after looking at his profile, but ultimately decided to stick with him.</p>
<p>Most colleges won’t let you change roommates unless you have a legitimate reason to do so. Legitimate means having lived together and run into irreconcilable issues - NOT being a FB/Twitter stalker who’s upset she hasn’t replied yet. Think of it this way: if your roommate found out you were checking her accounts all the time to see what she was up to, she would be CREEPED out. Calm down - not everyone cares to scour the internet/Facebook in their free time. The others you mention who seem so “involved” and “ready” for college on FB are NOT the norm.</p>
<p>Look under housing site. Usually you have to wait a certain number of weeks into semester before you can change rooms. However, don’t obsess about the contact thing. D1 contacted her roommate on FB and they had a couple of phone calls before school and she was optomistic that they would get along well…in person the things that they had in common didn’t help the fact that they had different personalities and they got along ok but were not friends. FB contact doesn’t guarantee friendship. </p>
<p>Don’t look at roommate as new best friend. What you really need, when it comes down to it, is someone whose personal hygiene and sleep habits are close to yours. If your roommate also becomes a good friend, then that’s a bonus.</p>
<p>@starkidkatie I’m in the exact same situation so I understand where you’re coming from. I find it extremely important to know who you’ll be sharing a room with for at least the next five months. I guess we unfortunately got roommates that aren’t as enthusiastic about college as we are. Having a positive relationship with a roommate is essential in order to have a positive and successful college experice, so trust me, I know exactly what you’re going through!</p>
<p>My school doesn’t tell you your roommate before move in day to prevent preconceived notions via social networking (especially facebook). I used to think it was a little silly but after reading this post I’m starting to see how it could make sense.</p>
<p>You can’t judge whether or not you’ll like your roommate before you even get to know her! Not answering an email in a week isn’t unreasonable- especially in summer. You and her have some different likes? Who cares? She could still be one of the nicest people you’ll ever meet.</p>
<p>I think it would be unreasonable (and a little rude) to try to switch roommates before you even meet yours. If I were you I’d start the school year and if things really don’t go well you can switch later.</p>
<p>Maybe your roommate has time for quick little updates, but wants to have a nice chunk of time when she can sit down and thoughtfully respond to you. Give her more time. She may be more mature and not in the giddy “I can’t wait to get to college” mindset. Maybe she has to work her butt off to afford it, so she has a lot of concerns and is worried and wants to avoid thinking about it all right now. Doesn’t mean she won’t be a fantastic roommate when you get to school. Maybe she does updates from her phone, but doesn’t have the computer nearby to sit for a lengthy response. The point is, you just don’t know, but to already be thinking negatively before you have any facts beyond pictures of clothing (who cares, btw?), may say that you are not yet mature enough in mindset for all you are about to encounter and be asked to synthesize into your understanding of the world.</p>
<p>“I guess we unfortunately got roommates that aren’t as enthusiastic about college as we are.”</p>
<p>Or maybe your roommates are actually more enthusiastic about the academic aspects of college, or working this summer to help pay for it, or enjoying their last few months with their families and high school friends, than whether they and their future roommates will have the same color comforters or both like One Direction. Just hope neither of them sees what you’ve been posting here, because it doesn’t cast either you or starkidkatie in a very good light.</p>
<p>Just give your roomate some time to answer. Maybe they deleted your message by accident. I’m sure if your unhappy when the school year actually starts, then you will be able to change your roomate then. Give them a bit of a chance</p>
<p>if you have a bad feeling about it then you should go with your gut. also, checking out their facebook and seeing that they aren’t compatible is not a very good sign, it might very well mean that you are not going to get along. if i was a roommate i would have responded the same day. i ended having roommates that weren’t compatible with me freshmen year and ended up having an awful experience.</p>