<p>This seems like the opposite from the way people usually are. </p>
<p>I'm talkative and can make people laugh with groups of 3 or more, but not one on one...I guess I can't think of anything to say or something...</p>
<p>Anybody else the same way? </p>
<p>To tell you the truth, I'd kind of rather have it the opposite way. People will have a good first impression, but once we're one on one, it'll be completely different...</p>
<p>I can be like this. The way I see it - sometimes it is easier to talk in big groups because you can build the conversation off each other. If one person runs out of things to say, there is always another willing to share their input. One-on-one, it really depends on who your talking to. It seems a bit rarer to find 1 person that I can talk to for hours and hours on end without the conversation lagging.</p>
<p>See, I’d trade you if I could. I’m the exact opposite, and in my college experience, pretty much all of the socializing I experienced was in large groups where the more talkative people won out.</p>
<p>I’m assuming you’re having this problem with people you’ve just met. </p>
<p>In my opinion, I find its easy to keep a conversation going if you just try to feel out the other person first, see what their personality is like (ask them questions, comment on certain aspects of them and whatnot), and be able to respond with your own personal experiences and opinions. Funny stories/jokes can help alleviate some of the awkwardness you might be feeling, and make the other person feel more comfortable around you.</p>
<p>And ask questions that can’t be answered bluntly with “yes” or “no”, since it gives you an opportunity to learn more about them, and gives them an opportunity to talk about themselves.</p>
<p>I think that maybe you’re just afraid you won’t live up to this image that you think they have of you, and as a result you can’t be comfortable in a one on one conversation because you feel like you’re being judged.</p>
<p>Just my 2 cents though.</p>
<p>I’m exactly like this.</p>
<p>I’ve gotten better about it because in college if I make a fool out of myself in front of someone I forget about them and move on. </p>
<p>Many of my friends are the opposite of the way I am and luckily it all works out. =)</p>
<p>pm me for one-on-one conversation practice, i’m the best at it and can show you some moves</p>
<p>I’m exactly the same way. I agree with what others have said in this thread. You can use other people to feed off of in a group discussion, and you’re not necessarily expected to follow the pattern of reply, listen, reply, listen, etc. </p>
<p>This will help! </p>
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