<p>So I just need some general advice, I know that other people are like this as well. When i'm in a new place i'm slightly shy. I'm nervous and i'm afraid of coming on too strong to other people (in regards to friendship). However, once i'm comfortable and have friends and such then i'm loud (not in a crazy way), fun, and a just an overall better person. But here's the issue, how do I overcome the "shy" stage first?</p>
<p>During my college orientation most of the students who did not even know eachother started sitting on eachother, laughing together, calling eachother biffle and things like that after an hour of knowing eachother I'm not like that. If I don't know a person I will not be climbing all over them calling them my bff. So how do I make friends?</p>
<p>I’m exactly the same way. I’ve found that I have to force myself to get out there, introduce myself and get to know others rather than waiting around and hoping someone will think I look at least mildly interesting. Having to make conversation with someone I don’t know is not something I enjoy, but I realize that it’s necessary. With that said, I definitely don’t declare friend-love within an hour of knowing someone.</p>
<p>As far as making friends goes, just hang out with on your floor/in your dorm, go to all those ridiculous beginning-of-the-year activities, and join some clubs. Maybe start a study group for a class.</p>
<p>I completely agree with the poster above. You’re going to have to learn to take the initiative instead of waiting for others. I’ve always been an introvert, but after working as a catering delivery guy, I learned to make small talk which leads to more meaningful conversations. Step out of your comfort zone and you’ll be glad you did.</p>
<p>I’m completely agreeing with you BlackRose101. I’ve already had a small freakout over introducing myself in person to my roommate and our suite mates, because I’m so shy. Maybe try to find something interesting about them to help strike up the conversation? Like a bracelet they’re wearing, or the textbook they’re holding? One time I commented on a guy’s John Deere earbuds and wound up talking with him for the entire bus ride.</p>
<p>One thing that I try to keep telling myself is to try and approach them like you would online. Online I don’t have as much trouble approaching someone new and let my louder, crazier self out more. Maybe thinking of it that way will help you too. :)</p>
<p>Being friendly and becoming friends are two very different things. In the US you see many more instances of just the former. Connect with people at your own pace, but don’t be afraid to engage in some dialogue. And of course, if you see someone familiar in the future, greet them. That can really show the true nature of a person.</p>
<p>It’s good to get involved in school clubs/sports, so you should check out the ones that interest you. That’s a great place to meet people with common interests that you can talk about and eventually get to know.
And sometimes it’s just easy in the classroom, especially if you’ve decided on a major and you start to see the same people in your classes.</p>
<p>Thanks for the admazing advice everybody :)</p>
<p>I plan on being a part of the school in regards to clubs and stuff. I’m a friendly person, I’m just not going to become instant friends with people like most of my fellow 2016’ers are but i’ll 100% go out there and start convos and stuff :)</p>
<p>Thanks!</p>