<p>I find it weird. I am more comfortable at socializing and more relaxed with a group of ppl. However, when it comes to one person, I can get really nervous and shy (esp with one girl vs a group of girls.) </p>
<p>Anyone has any advice for this?</p>
<p>I have the exact opposite problem. I’m perfectly fine 1 on 1, but I have more trouble (although not too much) in groups. The main thing for me is to find a common interest and milk it for all it’s worth. Common interests normally lead into other common interests and allow your conversation to broaden with time. The other thing that I do is try to get involved with an activity rather than just talk until we both drop. It really helps if you can actually do something with a person so that your interaction isn’t purely verbal but intellectual and physical as well.
hope this helped.</p>
<p>Practice, practice, practice!</p>
<p>So what if you’re shy? If you’re a good person, people won’t care if you’re shy. In fact, the socially advanced will actually try their best to get you to feel more comfortable.</p>
<p>You’ve identified that you’re shy. Now, use your logic and figure out how to fix that. Main question to ask is - is there any <em>good</em> reason why you’re being shy?</p>
<p>I’m actually pretty similar unless the group is really tight-knit and I’m not as close to them.
I have to agree with the common interests thing. Most people have SOMETHING in common with another person, especially if they’re both close enough to have a social encounter.
I guess it’s just best to learn to be comfortable with yourself and take interest in others.</p>
<p>yea… i have that problem especially if the other person and i have nothing in common except for being in the same class… then i all i can do is talk about that class and that only goes so far…</p>
<p>I think it mostly has to do with the self-consciousness in me beacause in a group, people are less focused on you and the atmosphere is somehow more relaxed whereas on a one-to-one basis, it seems like I don’t enjoy being in the limelight.</p>
<p>^this.</p>
<p>Also it seems to me that in a group, the conversation flows easier because the pressure is not all on two people to come up with things to say - with 4-5 people SOMEONE has to think of something interesting to comment on/etc. ;).</p>
<p>I can talk in front of hundreds of people without any nerves whatsoever, but one person or a very small group makes me much more nervous. There’s much less pressure with a larger group, I am not able to concentrate on one or two people and worry about what they are thinking, and if one person isn’t impressed with me the rest of the group may be still. I do better in vastly larger social environments in general, and thankfully went to a massive high school and then opted to go to a large university, too.</p>