Single in High School.

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Hello everyone I am currently attending a community college and I am about to graduate soon in the spring. I will have my associates degree but I want to further education so I have decided in the fall of this year to attend a university. Through out my whole life I have been single went to a really small high school graduating class was around 25 people. I never really found that person that I would have feelings towards. Anyways I have been living at home since graduating from high school and I am attending a community college. After completing my two years there I want to obtain a bachelors degree and meet new people. On top of meeting new people I want to finally meet the individuals that could potentially be my life long friends.

Getting a bachelors degree and finding life long friends is great! But I am still missing someone that would be very important to me. Which is the significant other, having someone that has feelings for me is something that I have never experienced. Your all probably thinking well this kid most likely one of those socially awkward people that sits inside and plays video games there whole life and never goes out. Well that’s actually not true right now I hangout with a few high school buddies which they plan on attending other universities as well after they obtain there associates degree. Which sends all of us off into our own different direction looking for friends and a significant other.

I forgot to mention something I am a 20 year old man if you were wondering.

Anyways my main question is will I meet that very special someone and find a new group of friends while attending the university I choose. The University I am going to attend has 40% men and 60% women which is awesome!! The total number of students attending is around 12,000.

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A class of 25 means there were probably 12 potential “special someones.” Not exactly a huge number from which to draw.

You’re only 20. Lots of deep breaths here, there’s lots of time.

I met my husband (at a wake, of all places) when we were 27. We’ve been married 25 years.

Again, lots of time. Concentrate on meeting great people, that “special someone” will be out there somewhere!

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Start off very casual. Despite what movies show you, nobody owes you anything. What is persistance to you can be stalking to them.

So

Ask classmates you might like if they would like to do homework in the student center/Starbucks/library with you.
If that goes well, see if they want to get coffee or something.
If they accept and if that goes well, see if they want a date after a few sessions.
If they don’t want to get coffee, then probably that is just a homework buddy.

Or join a club where you get to do activities/meet people and spend more time talking about a shared interest.

Go to as many campus activities as you can. If you live in your dorm and there is a dorm social, go to it.Talk to people.

Try an online dating site.

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Relax. Most people don’t find “that person” until after college. I’m 28 and I still haven’t found “that person.” There have been a couple that were potentially “that person,” but things ultimately never worked out with either of them. Coming from a school with only 25 people, I’d be astonished if a single one of your classmates found “that person” in high school. There’s still plenty of time.

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I met my boyfriend at 29. I have been with him nearly 15 years.