<p>So I had a lot of friends in high school. It was a pretty small high school and everyone pretty much knew each other. But here, in a massive university, I have yet to have made any friends. I kept telling myself that I'll get there eventually and make some good friendships, but that has yet to happen. I love watching football but I never have anyone to go with. I never have anyone to go with for anything. It seems like everyone has a nice friend group that they talk too and hang out with except me. I eat my meals alone, and on the weekends I don't hang out with anyone and just sit in my dorm. I attend social events, and I'm in some clubs but everyone just has their own cliques so I never really get to associate myself with anyone. I was always told that college will be the best years of my life, but I have yet to have made any friends. Like I see friends from my high school that usually didn't know that many people taking pictures with people and hanging out, whereas that has yet to happen to me. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong...and I feel so lonely and lost.</p>
<p>I sad the same probably at first well id talk to people in class but i wouldnt really have said we were friends since we didnt hang out or have any contact info. I would eat alone too and think wow this sucks.</p>
<p>But a few weeks later things jus fell into place but I kinda had to stop being so shy. College people are much more friendlier and nob judgemental than compared to high school. There’s nothing to worry about, people don’t have an expectation or reputation for you! </p>
<p>And you don’t always have to friends in class, try talking to people on campus. Making friends in class just tends to be easier but sometimes you might move to another section of the classroom for that. Not everyone you sit next to or near is going to and up being a friend.</p>
<p>Good Luck ツ</p>
<p>I think in college vs high school there are more freedoms on choosing your social circle but those freedoms come with hidden costs - the main one being that your social circles are not carved out for you like they were in high school. Kids enter high school with friends they already knew before hand and it is easy to find sports and after school clubs where you sort of have a circle of friends already laid out for you. In College, you have a chance to make more friends but you need to be proactive in seeking out clubs. At virtually any of the larger state or private schools, and many, if not most of the smaller ones, you can find student organizations dedicated to volunteer work, clubs for almost any hobby you can think of, churches, synagogues, meditation centers (I was actually introduced to one recently by a grad school classmate), the list goes on. Most universities probably even have search pages where you can find them. It would be ideal not to delay it any longer than absolutely necessary - the worst thing you could to is get in the habit of delaying attempts to join social organizations once you have discovered how important it is to you,.</p>
<p>I meant to say *same problem</p>
<p>I experience the same thing, in fact I have had zero social circle for a long time and haven’t found a solution. I’ve tried:</p>
<p>-clubs
-counselor
-jobs
-taking classes just to meet people
-hanging out in public places
-going to events</p>
<p>So yeah pretty much everything. What have I learned? I think it’s just down to luck. Of course it could just be me and you end up in a better situation.</p>
<p>thanks everyone :)</p>