Hello everyone I am currently attending a community college and I am about to graduate soon in the spring. I will have my associates degree but I want to further education so I have decided in the fall of this year to attend a university. Through out my whole life I have been single went to a really small high school graduating class was around 25 people. I never really found that person that I would have feelings towards. Anyways I have been living at home since graduating from high school and I am attending a community college. After completing my two years there I want to obtain a bachelors degree and meet new people. On top of meeting new people I want to finally meet the individuals that could potentially be my life long friends.
Getting a bachelors degree and finding life long friends is great! But I am still missing someone that would be very important to me. Which is the significant other, having someone that has feelings for me is something that I have never experienced. Your all probably thinking well this kid most likely one of those socially awkward people that sits inside and plays video games there whole life and never goes out. Well that’s actually not true right now I hangout with a few high school buddies which they plan on attending other universities as well after they obtain there associates degree. Which sends all of us off into our own different direction looking for friends and a significant other.
I forgot to mention something I am a 20 year old man if you were wondering.
Anyways my main question is will I meet that very special someone and find a new group of friends while attending the university I choose. The University I am going to attend has 40% men and 60% women which is awesome!! The total number of students attending is around 12,000.
I mean, no one on here can tell you when you’re going to meet your future SO. The best thing for you to do, honestly, is be yourself. If you’re super outgoing, then keep doing that. If you’re shy, then sit off to the side and chill. The last thing any girl wants is to expect one thing and then get something else.
That said, make sure you’re branching out and open to new people. You never know who your SO might be, and you don’t want to limit yourself to just one group of people. Also, and I mean this in the best of ways, don’t dwell on “finding” her. Guys that try to hard or are really desperate come off as creepy, and they go from being someone I might date to someone I don’t even want to be friends with. Obviously with ~7,200 girls, your odds are good, but don’t forget that girls talk. If you’re known as a creep by one girl, her 20 friends all think that too.
I am not 100% focused on finding someone to marry I am more aimed towards someone that can be my girlfriend. Sorry about the confusion, so would you say someone in my shoes has a lot of opportunities to find a girlfriend at a university?
A university that size with that many females definitely increases the odds of you meeting someone. Just be sure to get out of your room. Other than classes, study at the library, coffee shop, go to sporting events, join a club. None of those things should make you out to be someone you’re not as both introverts and extroverts do them. Like someone already said- just be yourself. The rest will happen in time.
Woah, @strawberry3 no need to hate. Everyone has different priorities, and he didn’t say that he was going to solely focus on getting a girlfriend. No need to make a bunch of assumptions.
I was 21 when I had my first boyfriend. I never had a boyfriend or a date in high school. My grandmother always told me there was a lid for every pot. You will meet someone. Sometimes you fall in love with the wrong person before you met the right person. I spent most of my 20’s chasing a guy who was a jerk. I met my boyfriend when I was 29. We didn’t quite hit it off the first time we met. We went out again the following year. I have been with him nearly 15 years now.