@Dodomaster. Come on man help me skip class don’t give me stupid advice. Sorry to be mean. But I really need help. You cannot talk me out of this.
This seems to be a lot bigger of a problem.
Go to class. Skipping the first meeting of any class will potentially be a big problem. There’s no way around it. This isn’t about skipping class being a taboo thing, it’s just the way colleges work. There are days you would probably be fine skipping: the first isn’t one.
It really doesn’t sound like you are ready, but if you can’t take a gap year then you at least need to be smart about your time in college.
No one will know you are asexual unless you tell them likely. People in college are pretty accepting these days anyways, it shouldn’t be considered an odd thing. That said, from your threads on here and your writing voice I suspect that asexual will be the least of your problems of being considered odd. So don’t fight it, just embrace it and find people who like the real you. Don’t try to change who you are for college, and don’t worry about what it will be like. Just be yourself, go to class most of the time, and do what you normally would for relaxing and fun.
I very very rarely skip (I’m in HS atm actually) so sorry no.
What’s your schedule like? You probably have an hour between most classes. (Again, not like high school.) You could go to a coffee shop or the library between classes and see how you feel. Nobody else there knows your schedule. Maybe you could just skip the first session of one of your classes?
There’s usually no drama in college, people keep to themself a lot, it’s your choice to get involved. I don’t advise skipping the first day, but if you must, maybe e-mail the professor ahead of time to let them know.
What difference does it make if the OP is seen? This is not grade school. There are no hall monitors. No one is taking attendence.
College is EXPENSIVE. And the students who matriculate are assumed to be motivated enough to attend class without hand-holding.
I say it again, and I’m not going to sugar-coat it. At this point in your life, you are headed for failure in college. You haven’t even started yet and you’re ALREADY intending to dodge class. You can’t even figure out where to hide the first day without help from others. And you’re complaining that hiding in the library is too boring.
I absolutely agree w you that u should not go to the first day of class this year, because I think u need a gap year. Then you might be better prepared for success.
@Ynotgo thank you I could hang out at starbucks to skip class.
thanks
my dad won’t let me take a gap year @GMTplus7. So are you saying that I should hang out at the library all day? If hanging at the library is an alternative to 1st day of freshman year in college I will take it.
-Thanks.
^^GMT, he doesn’t want his parents to find out.
Nobody will care if you are asexual or not- nobody will notice unless you point it out. College is not like high school -nobody will care if you are in class the first day. There is nobody to make you go and nobody will follow up with you if you don’t show up. There is really no drama the first day. The one big difference from high school is that if you don’t show up to class the first day you may be dropped from the class, especially if there is a waiting list. If you don’t want to go, just don’t go. You could go to a movie, to the mall etc. But really, if you don’t go the first day it’s going to be difficult to make yourself go the 2nd or 3rd day…
Also, I’m not sure why you would report anyone because they didn’t follow your instructions. That’s not what the moderators are here for.
Here’s the deal beetleman, you don’t have to go to class the first day, and since this is college and you are an adult or close to one, no one will be phoning your dad asking why you didn’t come to the 500 person lecture. You could literally skip down your campus shouting “I’m not going to class and no one can stop me!” and no one can or will stop you.
That being said, this is an idiotic plan, and will hurt you in the long run. Freshmen year grades do haunt people. I work with someone who originally flunked out, and after 12 years in the workforce is going back to school. But wait, they’re now limited on what financial aid they can get, and how they can structure their schedule since they need to retake the courses they got an F in.
@whenhen it is only the first day. I doubt it will ruin my college career. My plan is not idiotic for me. I am not ready for college but my parents are forcing me to go an refuse to have me take a gap year.
So then why are you skipping the first day and not the second day of class?
It will be inconvenient for you if you get dropped from classes to let people on the wait list into the class. Don’t skip any classes that are close to full if you plan on going the 2nd day.
Ynotgo. Could I email/call my professors to tell them I am “sick” to prevent this from happening.
One reason you aren’t getting the responses you seek is because there is no such thing as “the first day of freshman year of college”. (And of course because no one has a clue what “drama” you’re talking about, but that’s been mentioned.) There’s the day or days resident freshmen move in, there’s one or more days of orientation activities that occur during the day and evening, and then beginning after that there are the first meetings of each of your classes, and, if applicable, of breakout sections, all of which will likely be on different days. In between each of those events there’s time to hang out in the dining halls, snack bars, lounges, library, etc. There may even be a special lounge for commuters. In any case, it’s more like a first WEEK of freshman year. And no, you can’t skip it all unless you want weeks two, three, and following to be a whole lot worse than what you’re imagining for “the first day”. Check out the school’s academic calendar and freshman orientation schedule for a realistic sense of what will actually transpire.
@beetleman come on - my first day at MIT was not that bad, and I didn’t know what to expect. Who knows, you might actually end up enjoying or at least managing a few classes.
Find the waitlist policies on your college’s website.
Look Beetleman, you’re an adult. Your dad can’t make you do anything. If you don’t want to go to college, you don’t have to. I took a gap semester and worked in Yellowstone for half the year. It was an exhausting, dirty, disgusting job. No overtime pay despite always working more 40 hours a week. But my employer provided employee dorms and I got to live outside of the house in a brand new part of the country without having to worry about school.
Many of my coworkers didn’t have cars. Many of them did not have the best relationships with their parents. Many of them did not give a crap about education, although many of them were working there because hey they were born in a bad situation and the job allowed them to escape and save up a bit of money in the mean time.
My point is not that you should pack up your bags and move to the middle of nowhere Wyoming. It’s that college is not your only option.