Oberlin checks a lot of those boxes, other than the access to major city – Cleveland is about 40 minutes away, so not tremendously accessible but doable. It does have the “painted rock” in the town square – which is really Oberlin’s front yard – which students paint. Also, albino squirrels, we always thought they were good luck. Oberlin has the requisite coffee shops, pubs, and of course, a vibrant jazz and other music scene. No greek life.
Kenyon is known for its writing and theater programs, but is about an hour from Columbus, and Gambier is not what I’d call a college town, though it has the pre-requisites – coffee shop etc. About 20-25% greek life, non-residential, though members of specific chapters are housed in a cluster in the regular dorms (at least, that is what we were told on multiple tours).
Denison is in a village with the pre-requisites – pizza, coffee shop, dive bar with pool table – and is 25 minutes from Columbus. There is college radio station, a blue grass program within the music department, a tradition of older, local bluegrass players playing every Wed at lunch in the student common, D-Day in the fall when a midline popular music artist performs on campus. About 20-25% male participation in greek life, higher for females, also non-residential, though chapter members are not formally housed together in regular dorms the way we were told it happens at Kenyon. Used to be considered more “mainstream” and lax bros, but past 20 years or so there has been shift in student population so that is now balanced, with environmental activists living on the organic farm, performing and fine artists, social justice and lax bros.
Knox, Wooster, Earlham, Kalamazoo, Lawrence and Beloit are also great schools for quirky, interesting kids. Knox, Wooster and Beloit aren’t really accessible to any major cities. Kalamazoo, the city, is actually known for its arts scene, and Appleton, where Lawrence is, is a bigger town/smaller city of about 80,000. All but Kalamazoo and Earlham have greek life but even on those campuses, it is less traditional, frat boy kind of stuff and more quirky.
The midwest is a gold mine for smaller, quirky schools.