<p>Seems to me that you spend your time focused on someone/something that is not really in your present reality ALL THE time in this situation. I think you could agree to date other people. Just be realistic about what it will be like for both of you (you will go to college next year, right?) to be hanging around with a lot of new, smart, interesting people if you are tied down to someone only in “computerland” as someone above said. You might have summers together for a year or two, but then internships and opportunities to study abroad could take those away as well, and you would see this person for only a few weeks a year.</p>
<p>There is nothing wrong with agreeing to take a break, and stay friends. Hang out in the summers if it works out, and take a checkpoint around college graduation to see if you want to turn up the flame again and try to make something work.</p>
<p>Just a story from my past. A guy who was a close friend of mine in high school went to college with me and lived in my dorm. He was deeply in love (really) with a girl from the class behind ours in high school. She dumped him halfway through the year for the exotic, bright guy who moved from another country to our hometown the year before. I have NEVER seen anyone as crushed from a breakup as he was. It literally ruined the guy… he turned from a sweet, charming, trusting, kind person into a cynical kind-of-jerk. I still touch base with him occasionally 25 years later, and he has not improved. He married someone else and moved overseas. He sound miserable with his life every time I talk to him. 
The girl, by the way, only dated the other guy for about six months. I ran into her in an airport a couple of years ago and had dinner with her. She asked about him… kind of wistfully, I thought. I am not sure, but maybe this more realistic “let’s assume we WILL be attracted to and date other people, and see how we feel in four or five years” might have worked out better for them. But, maybe not.</p>
<p>Like any relationship it takes two committed people to work. Many relationships drift apart when the two are living under the same roof. </p>
<p>Personally, I do believe the odds are low for two young people to stay together throughout college when they have a significant distance between them, but I also know couples who handled it well and survived.</p>
<p>I have to agree with MickeyK: Try it out, but if it seems too difficult to maintain then try to have an amicable break-up. A couple that really cares about each other might be able to rekindle their relationship after a few years of maturing if they have an amicable break-up.</p>
<p>I’m going to throw my hat in the ring and say try it out. I am currently in a relationship that started at the beginning of my second semester senior year. My girlfriend was a junior then. We decided by the end of the school year that we were going to stay together in the fall. We spent all summer together, and then I went to school three hours away (no car) and she started her senior year at my HS. </p>
<p>First semester was really hard. When I went to school, we were looking at two months before we saw each other again but I pulled some strings and was able to see her in September (used friend’s car following an away football game an hour from home). I came home for fall break, then a couple weeks later she came to visit with some friends, then Thanksgiving, then Christmas break. I was pretty sad most of the time, but I honestly don’t regret it. I got a 4.0 in school and while I missed her a lot, I knew that I was doing the right thing. We’ve never had any trust issues or anything like that.</p>
<p>Second semester came and things started to get a little easier. I joined a fraternity but made sure that the time commitment wasn’t too much and that I could keep up with my studies and relationship. She came to visit in February, then spring break came, then Easter, and then I came home for the weekend to go to her prom (only time my parents let me come home on a non-break because of her). A couple weeks later, I was home for summer with a 3.95 for the year and she graduated.</p>
<p>She’s going to a school about three hours away from me (closer than home though) and I couldn’t be happier. It was absolutely the right thing to do. While first semester sucked a lot, second semester was great and now that I will have my car this year, I know everything will be fine. </p>
<p>I know they say it can’t be done, but if you want it bad enough, it can be. Good luck to anyone facing this dilemma! PM me if you have any questions.</p>
<p>If you’ve found a relationship you truly value, where both of you love and care for one another - something that not everyone is lucky enough to have - why wouldn’t you do whatever you could to stay together?</p>
<p>PS Knights I’m glad you had a happy ending :)</p>
<p>Just suck it up. Break up. These kind of things are hard to mantain</p>
<p>My boyfriend is going away too and I will be a senior, he leaves in two weeks:( I really like him too and we never fought either. But we are breaking up because of the distance (about a 5 hour drive) because I wont see him much. But there are two colleges near him that I was looking at before I met him and if I go to one of the two we will be about half an hour away and we spoke of maybe getting back if I go close. But do not base your college choice on the distance of where your boyfriend will be. That has to be your choice about academics and everything. Do not mess up your college education because of your boyfriend. If it is meant to be, you will find your way back to each other:) Just keep in touch with him!</p>
<p>It’s high school/college. Hit it and quit it. Wait till after college to start focusing on relationships and all their various crap.</p>