<p>Congrats! Have fun.</p>
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no point in dating. if human instictual behavior must be satisfied, one should engage in "one night stands" or hire a prostitute.
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<p>Not trying to bring this up again, but isn't monogamy against the principles of Darwinism survival of the fittest, meaning that this world should be populated with instinctive philanderers? It made sense that the emperors of old kept many concubines to ensure plenty of heirs.</p>
<p>I'm against high school dating cause for one thing, there's like 5 months left until i move away from my city and never to be back again for any period of time of more than 2 weeks at a time. </p>
<p>Pursuing a senior relationship, in my case, is lame cause i'm gonna have to give it up soon anyways. Yes. It's good experience, but from my experiences with high school dating (yes i have it, believe it or not), i find it more fun to hang out with the guys or guy/girl group than going solo with a girl. Of course i'm gonna get serious in university, cause i know a relationship there will have to opportunity to last more than a year. I started late in high school.</p>
<p>It seems to me that most college students are still in a relationship with their high school soulmates, though in different schools and maybe even across the country. It seems today with AIM, facebook, myspace, LJ, etc that a long-distance relationship is entirely possible. After all, when you start working, it's not like you will have to find a spouse amongst your co-workers. Promiximity isn't an issue when it comes to relationships. (...I wish it were)</p>
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f i had one wish
we would be best friends
Love would never end,
It would just begin.
If I had one wish,
you would be my boo,
Promise to love you,
Trust me Ill trust you.
If I had one wish, we would run away . . .
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<p>yes! great song sarorah... Ray J - One Wish</p>
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I haven't dated, but I won't try to label that a good thing. I'm not bemoaning my lack of popularity or good looks or anything. I just realize that I'll be at a significant disadvantage in college and later in life.</p>
<p>Damn. It'll be so awkward.
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I agree with all of that.</p>
<p>I go to a small school with only about 20 guys in my grade, most of whom are completely undesirable, and the ones who aren't already have girlfriends. There are 30ish guys in the senior class, but we don't really interact because our classes are divided by grade level, because of the way the IB program works. I'm getting to know one of them better through one of my EC's, but it's too early to tell where that's going... I'm definitely too shy to ask him out until I have some indication that he wouldn't automatically reject me, haha.</p>
<p>I've been asked out formally by one guy, but I declined because he didn't grasp the concept of personal hygiene. The closest I've been to a real date was seeing a movie with my best guy friend a year ago. I knew he liked me, but I was still trying to figure out my own feelings, and nothing actually happened. We're still good friends, though.</p>
<p>Me. Whatever. We'll see who has more members of the opposite sex chasing after them when I'm a famous investment banker making $2mil+ per year.</p>
<p>I guess, but would you be happy knowing that those women only like you for your money? I'm not being facetious; I'm actually wondering.</p>
<p>ihateCA,</p>
<p>I'm sorry you feel that way.</p>
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Me. Whatever. We'll see who has more members of the opposite sex chasing after them when I'm a famous investment banker making $2mil+ per year.
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That all bodes well for men, but it's unlikely that a wealthy middle-aged woman would have men running after her. This gender descrepancy sadly accounts for girls' underachievement after high school. Whereas a weathy, single man in his thirties is considered sexy, a single, successful career woman ithis age would have whisperings that she must either have issues or is a lesbian.</p>
<p>I had dinner with my quasi-girlfriend at at MUN conference once. My friends were at the next table.</p>
<p>Haha it sucked.</p>
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Not trying to bring this up again, but isn't monogamy against the principles of Darwinism survival of the fittest, meaning that this world should be populated with instinctive philanderers? It made sense that the emperors of old kept many concubines to ensure plenty of heirs.
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Nope. Well, yes, but nope - monogamy offers more support/protection for the offspring (at least during more uncivilized human existance), ie one parent can watch the kid while the other goes hunting or farming, decreasing both the chances of starvation and harm from, you know, wild boars or whatever while the parent is away. Two parents also offer a wider breadth of knowledge than one, ie if one's a good fighter you learn those skills in addition to the cooking/hunting/medicine/what have you of the other. Things like that.</p>
<p>And wow, was that OT or what. On topic: I've never been on a date but I've been asked more than once. The pool of guys at my HS isn't the best, to say the least.</p>
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<em>raises hand excitedly/waves it about</em>
Me!
<em>realizes this is not a good thing, becomes depressed at his social failure</em>
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<p>What can I say? I suppose I'm not desirable. *emo tear</p>
<p>if dances don't count, then im guiltytoo.
dating in HS is fun! its fun to tryout haha.</p>
<p>maybe we're not dating because we're sitting at home on this site</p>
<p>lol actually i've had two "boyfriends." the first one i don't really consider my boyfriend b/c it was for 3 weeks and it was one date with his friend and i was a really shy freshman and they were all older than him, a junior at the time.<br>
the second one made up a rumor about the first one that the first one made a bet out of me, and i stopped talking to the first one for about two years...
and then the second one turned out to be a compulsive liar, even though i couldve sworn he was the one person i could call a true friend and he was my best friend since i met him, two years ago.</p>
<p>i don't think this is relevant. maybe it disproves everything i thought about relationships...the second one seemed perfect. we talked every chance we got for the first year and hung out all the time ..but he was a bit controlling and i never noticed. ..but he ended up being a ****<em>ing jack</em>ss so i think he's a heck of a lot worse than the first guy.<br>
poing being i dont think it matters how long you wait, just try it and don't be afraid to shut away what doesn't normally seem right to you</p>
<p>that is, of course, unless everyone has completely rejected you.
then find your way into parties and hook up with drunk people. ;)</p>
<p>for all of the brains on this site~</p>
<p>Try separating your academic life and your social life. Take away the hard classes, long hours in the library and outstanding statistics, and what are you? (or should I say who are you)? I'm not saying you can't be social in school or at extra curriculars, but when you let go and open yourself up to just having fun (forget the "prepare for college" mindset), it will come to you. Do you see the responses on this thread? More people may be looking than you think. Take up on -- and even make opportunities!</p>
<p>I haven't ever dated (never even been asked.) At times, its depressing, but most of the time, I don't care. I'm happy, or at least content, as I am.</p>
<p>I don't think I'd start a relationship now, anyway, since I only have a semester left of high school. Why? Well, I think that my relationships should start out as friendships (though there could be exceptions), and I'm not good friends with any guys yet. I just don't think that with these few months that are left, I could become good enough friends with a guy to date him, and then be close enough to him in a dating relationship for a long ditance relationship to work. Besides, if I do find the right guy, our friendship could become deeper while we're apart and we could become bf/gf then. And then we'll know that a long distance relationship will work, instead of starting it when we're together and having it fall apart when I move away.</p>
<p>i don't think there's any use thinking about it until you have to..
you're going to change your mind when you find someone anyhow</p>
<p>so im in 8th grade and have a boyfriend. my opinion is for a person to truly mature and grow mentally they need to experience dating. just because high school dating isn't as serious as college+ dating it doesnt mean its not as important. i know im in a better mood now that i have a boyfriend, and i find ways to sacrifice my relationship for my academics and other commitments. like instead of going to the movies with my boyfriend on the friday before a big test, we would hang out at one of our houses and study together. high school relationships DO mean something in my opinion and don't alter a person's schoolwork if that person knows how to budget their time. if they don't, they arnt mature enough to date. relationships are about compromise and only with compromise they will work.</p>