<p>your opinion is true, but how are you sure that you've "truly mature"d and even know what that means? I don't think there's a specific point at which we've passed the immature vs. mature mark.. i think we're always learning or else you lose purpose in a lot of things..</p>
<p>also, it sounds like you're in the mindset that the compromise in dating is all about schoolwork vs. boyfriend
well i guess that's high school, and there will be more but I'm glad you're not there yet</p>
<p>On a related note, I guess... I'm realizing that the trouble with liking a nice guy is that you never know whether he's nice to you because he likes you, or if it's just his normal personality. Any advice for figuring this out?</p>
<p>why do you like him? is it BECAUSE he's nice?
you'll get to know him better and then you'll be able to pay attention to other details that he can't cover up if he tried</p>
<p>Dating without a date, yup. No actual date though. ^^ Yea, I made a mistake diving into a relationship without really paying attention to those details. Hehe, boys can hide stuff up really well if they like a girl.</p>
<p>i understand there is more compromise than academics and love life but in highschool those are really the 2 hardest things to compromise. i know im not mature enough to understand every point of opinions like this, but i do know about dating at my age.</p>
That's what I've been trying to do, but he's nice to everyone, and it's hard to quanify niceness, haha.
I guess his personality in general. He's the editor of the paper, but he's really down to earth (not arrogant!) and has a good sense of humor. He's not stereotypically "hot", but I think he's attractive. He's a perfectionist to an extent that some people find annoying, but I'm equally neurotic, so it all works out. I've never put it in list form like this... I guess it's just that compared to my previous crushes, it's much less fawning/"ohmygodheglancedatme!!111one"/being too nervous to talk to him than it is "this guy is cool and I'd like to spend more time with him", if that makes sense. Which I'm assuming is a good thing...? I'm really clueless, haha.
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you'll get to know him better and then you'll be able to pay attention to other details that he can't cover up if he tried
That's another good point. I guess I'll just have to be patient... thanks, guys.</p>
<p>yeah, that comparison to your previous crushes
that's a good thing =) </p>
<p>but in my own situation..i guess i've become a lot more pessimistic in fear of my own naivete. i'm still trying to understand how i saw so much good in such a terrible guy..i think because i was convinced that he knew me better than i knew myself, which was true..b/c i didnt know myself that well. i'm not one to rush into dating.. he was my first and only kiss at 16..and we were best friends for over a year before we liked each other. but even so, now i think all that doesn't matter. i think someone just has to know and be secure about herself before she finds someone else to love..that can happen at any age</p>
<p>anyway, interesting discussion topic for a college forum</p>