I just graduated college, which is 8 hours from my home. I still live with my parents until I can afford to move-out, which won’t be for another year or two. I know that I will have to work to both keep me busy and to make money (that’s the whole point of going to college), but how do people make friends after college (that do not include bars)? I don’t lonely, not including being with my family and I lost touch with a lot of people that went to my high school.
My kids kept in touch with their college roommates and friends. They also kept in touch with kids who worked with them during their high school and college part-time jobs.
Then, they developed friendships with work colleagues.
They also befriended their neighbors in their new homes.
They have different sports buddies who they meet to go do activities like: walking, biking, hiking, river rafting, beach trips, tennis matches, trips (non-Covid days) ,etc.
They’ve met friends in their buildings who go to ball games with them.
They’ve attended alumni events and basketball tournaments where they’ve made new friends.
They meet or converse with international friends they made in their study abroad programs and travel to new places with them.
My eldest has kept in touch with her former professors, who are considered role models and friends.
The opportunities are everywhere.
Are you worried you won’t find friends ever again?
What did you do in college?
You can join civic clubs (Rotary, Lions Club, Chamber of commerce) if you like that type of volunteering and involvement. You can volunteer through and organization (Habitat, Big Brother/Sister, CASA) or through your church. You might meet people through your job. There are (or were) adult sports leagues like volleyball or soccer or that do things together like skiing or hiking.
I feel for you. The social adjustment after college is very challenging during normal times let alone during a pandemic. I have thought throughout this whole ordeal how difficult this is for people needing and wanting to socialize including young adults. How does one make friends during a time of social distance? I have a close friend who moved just before the pandemic for their job and really hasn’t met anyone because everyone is social distancing.
I wonder if during this time the best chance might be joining an outdoor club or volunteering. I know where I live the rescue organizations have allowed their volunteers back as well as food banks. If you are politically minded you might be able to get involved in one of the campaigns over the next few months.
The tough part right now is the limited socialization due to COVID. For now try joining on line social groups, like meet up, and go on some hikes, etc.
I suggest getting involved with some volunteer group. That’s probably one of your best chances to meet people right now.
And, at least in my area, ALL the grocery stores are hiring young people. Another place to actually socialize with others IRL. There are options, so be proactive.
Meanwhile, Zoom with friends. It’s not a great substitute, but it’s better than nothing.