Social North Campus Housing & missed housing deadline

Colleges and Universities A-Z University of North Carolina - Chapel Hill
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<p>Hi guys,
I am an out of state student, current sophomore transfer at UNC. I lived in middle campus (Teague) this year and unfortunately, I have made ZERO close friends. I have a lot of acquaintances who live in South campus or grandville this year but I don't know how to let them know that I actually want to get invited out, texted,or something...lol. But I feel like since I lived with upperclassmen in middle campus who already had friends they didn't want new ones and the potential friends I made who live in South campus don't get to interact with me as much and UNC is huge so we barely see each other again. I should have lived in South campus as a sophomore transfer (and I did choose South) but for some reason housing gave me middle. This year, I missed the housing deadline...oops! I want to live in North campus next year because I am a Junior. But I hear North campus is less social so I'll probably be alone again next year! Not to mention, I don't have a preferred roommate (weird I know) What would happen with this whole housing mess and which dorms up north are more social...also, if you have any other recommendations for my situation that would be great! I am seriously getting depressed but I'm not that kind of person and I wake up with hope one day that I will be able to find 1-3 really good friends to go out with all the time or text. Please help! I have never been to a party, bar, or any social event because of this....I feel like everything would have been different if I had lived in South Campus. I am nice, fairly athletic (but slim build like your average UNC girl), average-attractive (sorry if this seems shallow but I think it does count sometimes), shy at times but I feel like that shouldn't be a prob. Point is, I am tired of eating dinner alone, doing homework on Friday nights, and I don't even have a texting plan anymore because no one texts me. I tried so much at the beginning (texting people I had met to hang out and we did hang out) but I didn't want to seem like a creep and I was hoping that once in a while they will take the initiative to text me back and make plans for us to hang out but none ever did :( I guess they forgot about me....but really I need help with this housing and social life stuff. The sad thing is everyone I run across thinks I am happy and I may talk to people I know during classes BUT I have NO social life...</p>

<p>sorry for writing so much but to sum up:
Will I still be able to live up north as a junior next year if i missed housing selection deadline?
I have no close friends but want to live up North to be with other upperclassmen, which dorms are more social?</p>

<p>any advice no matter how short or long will be useful</p>

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<p>Take a deep breath. </p>

<p>PM me if you want. </p>

<p>There are two different, distinct issues here: Not having close friends at UNC/not finding your friend group and housing. Those are not the same issue and you shouldn’t frame one in terms of the other. </p>

<p>On the first note-- It is COMPLETELY normal to have difficulty finding friends at UNC. Lots of other normal, happy and well-adjusted students (myself included) face the same problem. It IS hard to hang out when everyone lives all over the place, has different classes, schedules, etc. It can be hard to find your friend group but here are some ideas:</p>

<ul>
<li>Join a sports team (intramural). Some teams are very social and have tons of fun together (ultimate frisbee, I believe, is one of those)</li>
<li>Once you get into your upper division classes for your major, it starts to thin out and you can make more friends with people in your classes. It’s always nice to see if they’d like to do lunch.</li>
<li>Join a club that you’re interested in and actively participate (for example, I hear Marathon club is pretty cool and it’d seem like you’d bond)</li>
<li>Maybe look into joining Carolina Rowing if you’re athletic? THey’re always recruiting at the start of the year. It’d be harder to join as a junior, but see if they’d let you come to practices and such? It’s like an athletic sorority, imo.</li>
<li>Consider Greek life. Now, consider this carefully, but it’s an option nonetheless. </li>
</ul>

<p>Now, the housing issue. Call housing RIGHT NOW and explain that you missed the deadline. See if they can put you somewhere. OR, if they can’t, ask WHEN would be a good time to call back (maybe in a few weeks, etc.)</p>

<p>OR-- Opt for an LLC. There are still rooms in some of the LLCs. I know Joyner Substance free has spaces. They don’t do singles in Joyner, but at least you’d be on North Campus. </p>

<p>Apply for the student coordinator position. That’d give you automatic housing in that dorm. </p>

<p>Post of FB/Roommate finder and see if anyone is still looking for a roommate on North Campus and see if they’d pull you in. </p>

<p>Hope this helps! Feel free to PM me.</p>

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<p>Another housing option you have is Granville- I believe they are still accepting applications and they will allow you to choose a roommate or to fill out a random roommate matching survey and pick one for you. Now, Granville is mostly underclassmen but there are upperclass floors and lots of sophomores will be there next year. It is pretty much a community- their own dining hall, etc. and lots of social events for the residents. It isn’t snobby as some think- there are all kinds of students there, from the very wealthy all the way to the Carolina Covenant scholars on full scholarship. It isn’t all Greek either as some think. And it’s pretty convenient to most classes. Just an option to look into…</p>

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<p>Honestly, for the first time ever, I’m going to recommend Granville for next year. You’ll still feel very campusy, but get some privacy, but also socialize.</p>

<p>Reading this made my heart hurt. It is so important that you join a club!! That is an instant way to make friends, and many clubs socialize/have parties to fundraise.</p>

<p>Club sports will instantly have you mingling with people, but there are so many other interest related activities. There’s the DTH (who I KNOW has lots of fun… My housemate worked for them junior year and I had to clean up after them on many a Saturday morning :-))… Young Dems are fun… The Carrboro scene (join the nightlight’s mailing list)… Without knowing what you like to do it’s hard to recommend stuff, but really, your key to friendship will be joining clubs. If you’re interested in music or music production, I highly recommend joining vinyl records! It is an awesome club in that it gets you a lot of hands on experience that is very useful come job search time. Feel free to PM me at any time.</p>

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<p>Also, just don’t worry about texting people too much. College students have no self awareness and they let perfectly good friendships fizzle out just because of business. I always appreciate it when someone consistently keeps in touch with me. You have my social permission to text the crap out of these people. Also, here’s another idea… Have a party! Even if it’s just in your dorm room! Have some people over and make a night of it. Then plan to go to something out on Franklin or something.</p>

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<p>Just to add to ArtemisDea’s suggestion about the Marathon Club…you might like to try this. D tried a few clubs the first year and landed on the Marathon Club as one that was a keeper for her…very small, friendly, inviting, non-competitive. She too is somewhat shy. Also, don’t let the term marathon scare you off. D does like to run but has yet to do a marathon. They meet 3-4 days during the week, totally optional how much you want to show up, and different groups do different length runs based on what they feel like.</p>

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<p>Thanks guys! I almost forgot that I could invite friends over…what the heck?? Also, thanks for the tip on the intramural sports…I will definitely try to join one. As for living in Grandville, I already signed the housing contract and I am going to be a Junior next year…I’m not sure if that would work out?</p>

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<p>^ Breaking a housing contract is $200.</p>