<p>Ok, so this is my first time posting here, so I'm hoping I did it right and it's in the right section! I'm looking for advice as a college freshman. This ended up being super long, I'm sorry. So, if you're reading this, thank you. :)</p>
<p>So here's my situation: I am dorming at a college about 300ish miles away (out of state) from home, where I attended a fairly big high school, but had a close small group of friends. Ever since I was about 10 or so, I have had extremely high anxiety levels (generally all related to school) and I'm pretty positive I have social anxiety and depression (probably as a result of the social anxiety). It got worse after I permanently injured my knee in 9th grade, so I had to stop playing sports and couldn't do HS track or soccer. Unfortunately, despite talking through some of my anxieties with my mom (she also has mental health issues, maybe its genetic?) I was always too nervous/proud to go to a therapist for help so I have never gotten an official diagnosis. </p>
<p>When I was applying to colleges, my Dad (my parents are divorced) told me he would help pay for my college tuition, but that he really wanted me to dorm and get the "away experience." My Dad kind of knows about my anxiety, he just does not really understand how difficult it is to be outgoing and that my problem can't really be "cured" by putting myself in super uncomfortable positions (trust me, I have tried.) I brought up community college (because I don't even know what I want to major in) because with my grades I got a full scholarship there so then I could save my own money and transfer later when I decided on a major or something. I did not want to disappoint him, so I applied to all away schools (and my local CC in secret, with the support of my mom haha). In theory, I would love to want to go away. I'd like to be more social, have more friends, like to party, etc. But I think I have to accept that that's really just not me, at least not right now :( I've always had a small group of friends, preferred hanging out casually to attending big parties. I love my family, me and my mom are extremely close, so I didn't even feel the need to go away to school to begin with. But I felt pressured because all my friends went away, and my Dad really wanted me to, I feel bad because he only wants what he thinks is best for me. I also wanted to challenge myself, but I feel like such a big step (a huge school far away) maybe wasn't such a good idea and I should have started smaller... But anyway, I applied to away schools, got in just about everywhere I applied (my grades and SAT were pretty good) and now am I freshman in a really prestigious 6 year pharmacy program, solely because I had the grades for it. </p>
<p>I know I should be happy with what I have, I'm in a really great program, live in the newest dorms, my campus is beautiful and huge etc. but I just feel miserable. I cried every night the week before I moved in because I was so nervous and sad (I'm a big sensitive baby too, that is not helping LOL) I cried on move in day, I cried myself to sleep last night, heck I am tearing up right now (thank God my roommate is out), and now that I'm here I don't feel any better. I'm scared to talk to people, although I try my best. I leave my door open, I went to the first big gathering for our floor and our hall, I introduced myself, etc, but I can't seem to shake my extreme anxiety and homesickness. I feel so nervous I can't even really eat (though I did brave the dining hall by myself, I didn't really eat anything and I know that isn't helping :( I know, from forums like these, that some degree of homesickness is normal and that it usually passes, but I can't help but feel hopeless right now, especially since I wasn't really feeling the whole "away college!" thing in the first place. I've been talking to my HS friends, and one of them can relate, which helps, but the others are really having such a great time, I feel like there's something wrong with my because I can't handle this. I was hoping my roommate and I would click, but she actually is local, and has tons of friends from her HS here. Everyone seems to have a friend but me. Rationally I'm sure someone somewhere is in the same boat as me, but really that doesn't make me feel better. I've been talking to my parents about how I feel, but now I feel guilty for worrying them. I feel even more guilty when I think about how much money my dad is paying when I didn't even really want to go, and now that I am here I can't wait to leave. I don't want to quit (well, I kinda do, but I could not bear to disappoint my dad like that, he would be crushed if I told him I wanted to come home.) but I'm not sure if I can stick it out for the year. I know I have to try and do what's best for me, but I don't know if the benefits of staying at this school outweigh being super sad and anxious pretty much 24/7. I was anxious at my HS too, but at least I felt safe and secure at my home. :( Advice? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Are my concerns valid or am I just being ridiculous? Anything would be much appreciated!</p>