<p>i know it sounds really weird but one of the reasons i would want to get married is to see if i could stay married. i want to know if i'd get divorced. and how long it would be before i got sick of the person and couldn't stand them anymore.</p>
<p>its very difficult for me to imagine marrying someone for love or for someone marrying me for love. i guess its because i've never personally known anyone who did. </p>
<p>i see marriage as just a contract. if the cons outweigh the pros then don't get married. if you are married, get a divorce. you should only marry if they bring something to the table that improves your situation. and you should never marry just because of your feelings, because I've never seen it that feelings lasted and didn't end up going sour. in the end you'll just feel all the more the fool. </p>
<p>besides i don't feel like true love really exists. people only 'love' you because you have something that they enjoy getting. they 'love' you because you are nice to them, you are pleasant to look at, you make good conversation, etc. if you took those away wow all of a sudden they don't 'love' you as much anymore. people are much too selfish to sacrifice their own happiness if they know that in the long run they'll lose out. we don't freely give and not expect to receive, we just exchange. i mean i used to think that there'd be a guy out there who truly cared about me but i guess i've grown more cynical or something, because i know that if i didn't have anything much to offer anymore, they'd lose interest. i mean i'm just tired of people always using each other. </p>
<p>i've seen how marriage ruins people. and when your own marriage goes wrong, then people judge you and its just really disgusting because yeah they say all this crap about you and your family but they're too coward themself to get out of their own horrible marriage. </p>
<p>i guess another reason why i'm so pessimistic about marriage is because i don't really know any guy who i've respected. i can just imagine some guy tryng to control me and be like 'i make the money, this is my house'. but this only happens after you get married. while you're dating they're the perfect gentleman. after they've got you in their clutches then they show their true colors. and they just keep using you and taking and taking and taking and never giving anything back unless theres people there watching. deep down i know i see guys as just these people who smash things and leave the woman to clean up the mess. and then i hate the women who continually let them do this to them. </p>
<p>and for the second part:
people have kids because </p>
<h1>1 they think they've got good genes that should be passed down</h1>
<h1>2 they have an instinct for kids,</h1>
<h1>3 they want to see if they could raise a happy family unlike their failure parents,</h1>
<h1>4 they want someone that will love them and respect them,</h1>
<h1>5 they want someone to take care of them in their old age,</h1>
<h1>6 unplanned pregnancies happen,</h1>
<h1>7 they are lonely</h1>
<h1>8 their partner+society pressures them into it</h1>