<p>For my junior and senior years, I decided to take difficult course schedules, full of honors and AP classes. Recently, a friend told me it would be funny if I spent so much time improving my GPA and still failed to get into an ivy-league school. A few days ago, my school's valedictorian got rejected from Stanford. I knew my chances were low before, but now everyone is telling me I'm going to get an automatic rejection. One person said I should not even apply. I've completely lost the motivation I had to apply, but I'm still not sure what to think. I guess I should wait until I'm accepted/rejected before I start thinking about this type of stuff.</p>
<p>jealous. don't you see that your friend is probably very insecure? She is trying to justify her years of not studying, etc, as "nobody will get in anyway". You know what? You will never have the "what if" question if you try your best. Your little friend is just trying to physche you out</p>
<p>In my eyes you did waste your time. I say that bc I am lazy and like to have fun and have as little stress as possible. Good luck in whatever you do. I'm sure it'll pay off.</p>
<p>That person is clearly jealous, working hard in school is never a waste of time, especially when concerned with college admissions. If nobody from your school has a good chance at Stanford, even if they work hard, who cares? You'll still get into the best school you could have gotten into, maybe not a ivy, but your underachieving peers will get into even worse schools still. And even if you all end up at the same school, you'll only have less stress come the day you find out about admissions decisions, since you'll already have worked hard :)</p>
<p>I definitely wouldn't write yourself off yet. Who knows why she got rejected. She might have not had any extracurriculars, or her essays might have been weak. Every applicant is different, and as long as you make yourself a strong one you'll have nothing to worry about.</p>
<p>Did you take every opportunity to enjoy life? Did you ever once give up something you wanted to do so that you can do one extra thing to get into college?</p>
<p>Say you get hit by a bus tomorrow, and you never go to college. It might seem you just wasted four years of your life for an arbitrary goal,in a matter of speaking. You always have to make sure your goals are there for the future, but that you take the time to make sure whatever you are doing in the present matters for NOW.</p>
<p>This is what high school kids who only care about college don't get. If all that matters is college, you just throw away four years of your life. And then they might do it again in college, and waste another four or five. Hell you might only start living life when you're in your mid 20s. That's a lot of time lost.</p>
<p>You kind of did waste time. The kind of people who get into Ivy Leages may or may not have a rigorous schedule like yours. I think it depends more on HOW people view them (recs) and what they do outside of school that takes their time.</p>
<p>But I would never, ever tell someone to NOT apply. I would never, ever suggest NOT trying. That is some bull, right there. Also, you can be rejected by Stanford and get into Harvard. I mean, you need to try, try, try if you want it!</p>
<p>just do ur best...if a friend is not supportive (like they should), then clearly he/she is not a real "friend".</p>
<p>Tell them that they are a complete moron and should stop being jealous of your greatness and future potential success in life.</p>
<p>lazyness breeds nothing but poverty and crappy lives. A strong work ethic doesnt safeguard against such, but it is one of the best possible ways to avoid ruin.</p>
<p>Um, perspective? </p>
<p>To someone, it might be wasting time, but to someone else (you) it is clearly not a waste of time. Forget what others say and retort with, "That's what you think."</p>
<p>Besides, doing all the work in high school makes much of college seem like cake, from what I hear. Might as well do lots of enriching things which happen to get you ahead, right?</p>
<p>Someone lied.</p>
<p>High school work is elementary compared to college.</p>
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Did you take every opportunity to enjoy life? Did you ever once give up something you wanted to do so that you can do one extra thing to get into college?</p>
<p>Say you get hit by a bus tomorrow, and you never go to college. It might seem you just wasted four years of your life for an arbitrary goal,in a matter of speaking. You always have to make sure your goals are there for the future, but that you take the time to make sure whatever you are doing in the present matters for NOW.</p>
<p>This is what high school kids who only care about college don't get. If all that matters is college, you just throw away four years of your life. And then they might do it again in college, and waste another four or five. Hell you might only start living life when you're in your mid 20s. That's a lot of time lost.
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<p>^ The most intelligent person on this board. I'd starting looking out for buses if I were you.</p>
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just do ur best...if a friend is not supportive (like they should), then clearly he/she is not a real "friend".
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<p>Anyone WHO EVER uses this is truely a sorry excuse for a friend. What if your best friend wanted to become a terrorist and blow up the school; you better be supportive, you are his/her bestfriend no?</p>
<p>I would never have best friend who wanted to be a terrorist. If they did, they probably wouldn't be worth having as a friend in the first place.</p>
<p>Ignore the other kids.
Even if you don't get into Stanford, you'll still get into a good school..</p>
<p>did you learn anything productive/interesting from those classes that you wouldn't've otherwise? get a new perspective on anything? </p>
<p>and no matter where you go, you're gonna take that work ethic and such with you, which is anything but a waste.</p>
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<p>Which is completely irrelevant... The point is that your logic is flawed.</p>
<p>She's just saying that is not a good friend, el cono</p>
<p>Tell your friend to get some perspective. She's assuming that the only goal of doing well in high school is to get into an Ivy League school. First of all, you will probably love where you end up regardless of whether the school's an IL or not. If, for example, Harvard is your first choice, and you get rejected, it'll be very upsetting for awhile. But once you move into college, you'll probably fall in love with it, even if it wasn't your first choice originally.</p>
<p>And there's so much more to learn from high school than just calculus or how to write an essay. If you made good friends in high school, then your effort was worth it. If you learned how to interact with your peers and adults in high school, then your effort was worth it. If you acquired time management skills, motivation, and determination, then your effort was worth it. The critical thinking skills you learned from your AP classes will also help you in the future.</p>
<p>There are lots of things that doing well in high school did for you, even if they're not visible on a transcript. And hey, as long as you don't feel like you wasted four years, then what your friend said shouldn't matter. She could just be bitter and insecure herself, so she's trying to drag others down with her.</p>