This discussion was created from comments split from: dismissed first semester Freshman year - any advice.
<p>My son was released from top engineering school one year ago, I can’t tell you how frustrated I was, there were tears and emotional. The major reason is because Asia family can’t accept failure, no matter what is the reason. Yes, my son had long term asthma problem and he had very bad flu during the midterm, he emailed to the professors but none of them allowed him to postpone. He was not happy when I forced him to claim himself as disability later, his hard work in 2nd semester still can’t balance the poor grade in 1st semester and he was asked to leave. One tier 2 state university accepted him right away and there is no delay for his college education, but to me, it is a very huge impact, I hide myself for six months and I don’t know how to explain my son’s academic dismissal to any parent. It is a big torture when I heard the other parent brags on their kids, I asked myself thousand times, did my son fail because his asthma problem or he played too much video game? Did he really tell me the truth? One year pass, his current GPA is 3.65 but still not qualified for scholarship, he tried to transfer to another top 30 engineering school (his major is EE) but was rejected. I believe he has no other choice, his academic dismissal record will follow him for the next 10 years.and he won’t have a chance to go to any decent master program.</p>
<p>This thread is FOUR years old! You would be much better served to start your own thread.</p>
<p>But I’ll respond…your son isn’t the first or the last to be asked to leave a college for academic reasons. And engineering is a particularly difficult course of study.</p>
<p>You have no reason to be humiliated, and yes, that is how you sound. As long as this current college is ABET accredited, your son will be fine as an engineering major. He does NOT have to attend a top 30 school…so drop that notion, and celebrate his success where he is at.</p>
<p>You have NO explaining to do. Don’t volunteer any information, and if asked, just say he is now at a different college and WALK AWAY.</p>
<p>In a few years you can celebrate his graduation…from the college where he is having success…now.</p>
<p>Why is this a hot topic? The original thread is almost 4 years old… @silentmom, not every kid is cut out for a “top engineering school”. Sounds like he is doing okay in his new environment. As long as it is ABET accredited he should be fine as far as employment goes. Is he getting internships and experience? That will help as well. Stop worrying about grad school – if he is happy and will be gainfully employed, then don’t worry about what to tell other people.</p>
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<p>love your child. break some silly cultural cycle. everyone has hiccups in their lives. other people are just lying they claim all is perfect with their kiids.</p>
<p>happily send him to this new school. </p>
<p>dont worry about grad school now. if he does well at the tier II school, he can go anywhere. one of my son’s engg friends is now at Stanford for grad school. </p>
<p>There is great beauty along the road less travelled. A small detour looks even smaller in the rear mirror. Focus on the future and remember NOBODY is keeping track of who is in top programs, except the student himself. In three years, your son might be happy with a higher GPA earned at the state school. </p>
<p>It is not about how hard one falls, but how quickly one picks himself up. The US loves stories of redemption and successes that come after failures. </p>