<p>Congratulations- you did a good job of parenting/raising your son to be independent. No matter how much you may want to helicopter it sounds like he won’t let you. There is nothing wrong with doing your own college search and sending him occasional (not frequent) email links. You may still be in the same household but emails let him digest the material when he wants to and privately- often easier than a face to face conversation where you can lose him before you make your point.</p>