<p>I am currently a sophomore at a very small very isolated school and recently have lost all my friends when they joined a sorority. All my friends were either in the sorority or planning to join so we all rushed together but I didnt get in and they did. They said nothing would change but so far everything has changed and I have never felt more alone. They spend all their time on sorority stuff including meals and I have just been alone. We all live in a suite together and I am the only one not in a sorority and its really awkward. I dont want to have to transfer and start all over at a different school because I really do like this school but I can't stand being this alone and isolated and also because it would completely crush my parents since they attended this school. Its so difficult to make new friends at a place so small and I dont know what to do. Any advice? </p>
<p>i would tell your friends this. Maybe have a girls night or plan a certain times when you guys will definitely eat or hang out together. You should also check to see what kind of clubs are available on campus. There could be a group you are interested in and maybe you will be able to meet some new friends. </p>
<p>I agree with planning. When you go greek, your house is your easy go to social scene. Freshman year before I pledged I would have set lunch plans with people. Once I joined the house, I never needed meal plans, I would just go to the cafeteria and people from my house would be there - I couldn’t guarantee that with my friends who weren’t in my house.</p>
<p>I also agree with finding more friends outside your suite mates.</p>
<p>Maybe your friends will weather this change, and maybe not. But a college experience is going to be richer if you have more than one group of friends. I strongly suggest you try a new activity, whether it’s joining the school choir, building sets for the theatre, joining a hiking or kayaking club, but something that involves teamwork and interaction with other people. After the event, suggest going out for a meal or coffee with other people.</p>
<p>Happens all of the time. My neighbor’s daughter went through this, and she’s very depressed. MOst kids find other things to join and do, make some new friends. If it really is something that you can’t tolerate, look to transfer. That’s a reason I hate frats and sorors. They hurt young people at a very vulnerable time in life when there are enough pitfalls. </p>
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Let’s keep this otherwise very civil, helpful discourse free of unnecessary, inaccurate, and inflammatory statements.</p>