<p>Can anyone give me advice on how to be able to talk with others more. I've always been the loner, and I find it hard to start and continue conversations, even amongst the few friends I have. I believe part of the problem is that I'm not that much into a lot of pop culture, musics, sports, movies, games etc. that kids today all seem to care about. I ask them how's your weekend, how's your day, they say a few lines, and then when they ask me the same, I reply back a few lines, usually less because I can't anything unique or different about my day (same old routine). Then the conversation goes into awkward silence. And when I do think of some good topic, either that seems to be popular according to Google Trends, or anything else interesting, I can't start a conversation with that topic without appearing that I seem so random and weird.</p>
<p>Do you ever notice kids who also seem to be loners? I sometimes feel a similar difficult with starting and holding conversations, though I’m acclimating. Have you attended school with the same kids for many years, or are you unfamiliar with some of them? Do you have any specific interests that really spark your passion? Maybe you could bring up things like Google Trends with people who seem more receptive. Do you feel like you have a relatively perception of people and what they might like? You could think of off the wall questions that don’t seem “weird” to you, which you could then ask in lieu “How are you?”. Are you home schooled or do you go to a private/public school? If the latter, what are the kids in your classes like?</p>
<p>I’m a loner, but through high school, I’ve kinda developed an ability to chat with others for a while.</p>
<p>My strategy: become truly interested in the person you are speaking to. Become interested in his/her interests because they are his/her interests - and just temporarily. Become interested in his/her achievements, his/her struggles, his/her anecdotes. Ask questions, give trivial or sometimes thoughtful comments. Just show that you care.</p>
<p>And they will reciprocate when you feel like talking.</p>
<p>Reading the news more often will increase your ability to discuss subjects present in the collective consciousness. >.></p>
<p>I would agree with Philovitist. It can be easier to hold a conversation with someone when you inquire about the other person’s life. I don’t often tell people about my life (the more personal things). Generally people are willing to talk about what’s going on with them. I find it quite rare, anywho, that someone asks me about my life, but the conversation has a sort of lubricant if you just keep asking questions of others about what they do/believe.</p>
<p>Why not be random? And you’re trying too hard to find something that others have in common. I usually end up making friends because I make a comment on something or a joke, or it’s the situation I’m in and it’s inevitable. Yes asking about others can make friends, but embrace your passions! Love being odd, makes you remembered and unique 
…I swear one week I was jokingly called “weird” like 10 times in a week, it’s not that bad. And the people you end up being yourself with are more like you than you think (they’re just closet odd!).</p>
<p>“hey what’s up” is lame. Start with something you guys have in common. If it’s a class, talk about the latest quiz, if you really have nothing in common, make a comment about the weather to start a conversation. Introduce yourself, let the conversation flow, if it sounds like it’s going downhill, ask another question, whatever, just keep it from dying.</p>
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<p>I tend to talk about whatever is going on around me. Like I’ll just start this really inane running commentary and see if they respond and if they don’t I shut up.
A few people (very few, really) think I’m funny in a bizarre sort of way. So that helps.</p>
<p>A ‘conversation crutch’ taught is to have 3 items in your pocket, like pennies or buttons. Each of these items symbolizes topics, for example-your favorite movie, your hobby and your pet. When you are trying to find things in common, you can start a conversation about the last movie you saw or your favorite pet antics.</p>