Still haven't found my niche

Colleges and Universities A-Z Michigan State University
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<p>I'm a sophomore transfer student, and while I really like it here at state I'm still having trouble making friends.
I mean I have a few acquaintances but no real friends yet. This is probably my fault as I consider myself to be kinda socially awkward. I don't like approaching people and I will always choose the seat in an isolated are when a room full of people. I just get so nervous and think that people will find me weird or like wish I hadn't sat next to them.
I also rarely ever text people just to hang out because I feel like I'm being a bother or that I'm being "that girl" who always tags along where she's not wanted. And I feel that if people really wanted me around they would invite me in the first place.
I've been told that joining clubs may be the solution to my problem and I am in a few, one of my favorites being MRULE because it really almost forces you to be social. </p>

<p>So first off, any suggestions on making friends? Because I've been told by my roommate that all of my self-consciousness is for nothing and that I'm actually a cool person.
And second, any suggestions on good clubs to join? Like not purely academic ones but social ones like MRULE?</p>

<p>thanks :)</p>

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<p>I love MRULE! I’d definitely stick with it, it is a great thing to get involved in. In terms of what you can do, I’d recommend just putting yourself out there more, as nerve-wracking
as it may be. I’m of the opinion that it is never too late to start making friends. What I’d do is, not only get involved with clubs, but also get involved in any dorm events that are being held - whether by residence life staff, your intercultural aides etc. Go to your floor dinners if there ever are any, go to any floor event that is being held that interests you, and you are bound to be able to chat up others who are there. It is not always easy to make friends, but just do your best to be more friendly and approachable - wave to people you see in the halls (even if you don’t know them), or drop by any open doors to say hello and introduce yourself (even if it makes you feel uncomfortable initially). Good luck!</p>