<p>I transferred in to MSU this fall and I'm having trouble making friends. I am not terribly socially awkward but I have trouble meeting people unless I am guided into it which I know is not the right way to make friends.
Basically what happened to me is that I got really lucky and my roommate and I really hit it off, but most of the friends/acquaintances I have made have been through her. And this weekend she went home and I am realizing how hopelessly lonely I feel right now.
I know its pretty much late in the game and most people have already established their friend groups but how do I make friends outside of my roommate?</p>
<p><em>aside note</em> One of the reasons why I have trouble meeting people is that I get self-conscious and I feel like I'm being a bother, or I'm uninteresting or I just seem desperate.</p>
<p>But does anybody have any tips? I just wanna stop feeling miserable during a time when I should be meeting new people.</p>
<p>Join some clubs. You said you’ve made friends through her? Then call them. Ask if they wanna hang out.</p>
<p>Much like how I’m learning in regards to talking to women, you gotta just talk to people. Just approach someone after class and say “boy that was interesting/boring” or something like that. Introduce yourself, have a short conversation then do it again next time. Also, if anyone sends an email to the class proposing a get together for a study group, go to it. They’re usually about as productive as a comatose factory worker but they provide a great way to meet people.</p>
<p>Yeah I actually do think I’m gonna join some clubs, just gotta find some that appeal to me.</p>
<p>And I always feel so damn awkward about calling up people to hang out. I always feel like I sound too desperate and the whenever I call someone they’re thinking “Ugh, not her again” and they only hang out with me out of pity. I know its probably not true, but I still let it get to me sometimes.</p>
<p>Same question!!! Even though it’s waayy to early for me (class of 2015 :D)</p>
<p>I think joining clubs would help…?</p>