I got kicked out by my parents house and lived in my boyfriend and his sisters house for a month. Then I moved into my dorm. With all of my stuff in their house, I had to decide what to bring to my dorm. At my dorm, my roommate started going through every single box of mine when I would stay at my bf’s, and when I muttered about something being missing, she would know which box it was in, and I saw a few things of mine in her desk (and she bent over and I saw her wearing a pair of my underwear (GROSS) which I know was mine because those were also missing) Meanwhile, I started staying at my dorm more often once classes began and now boxes at my boyfriends house were gone through with things missing. I asked my boyfriend if he went through them and he said he had not. Curious, I went into his sisters room and my hair straightener, two of my hair brushes, my apple watch charger and my PS4 charger were scattered across her room, along with a few pairs of my socks strewn across her floor, clearly worn and very dirty (brown). I am a very shy person and my bf’s sister has been the person I talked to about my roommate, so she knows I won’t say anything to her but I am getting incredibly frustrated. WHAT DO I DO?!
PLEASE talk to your RM about this situation, and look into possibly finding a new room (I think the date to transfer to a different dorm room is approaching). It has been documented that students living on campus have higher grades and a higher success rate overall which is why so many schools require freshman to live on campus. You may even be able to find a room in a quad or in Park Place where you have your own space and can lock the door. This is just unacceptable and it seems that you can’t get away from the situation by staying with your boyfriend. For some reasons, these girls think that what is yours is also theirs, and that is not the case. My daughter has been in a dorm for four years now and even though she’s had some not-great roommates, this has never been a problem. I urge you to talk to your RM TODAY about this and see what your options are.