<p>Please contact the parents. Or your daughter could do it, if she feels safe enough to do so.</p>
<p>I have a couple of friends whose kids have gone off the rails at school, and who would have really appreciated knowing what was going on earlier, when friends and professors first had strong indications that something was really wrong. The two kids I’m thinking of did a great job of deflecting the truth of what was going on until it was a crisis situation.</p>
<p>I would rather get a call from a concerned friend or parent of a friend, and earlier rather than later.</p>
<p>CONTACT THE PARENTS! I was the parent on the other end. Fortunately, my son knew he was in trouble and filled out a mental health questionnaire on the student health center website. When they saw his responses, they told his grandmother (who lived in his college town) to bring him in IMMEDIATELY. I don’t want to go into detail, but it was scary.</p>
<p>My heart is beating hard, just reading your posts. And of course, the young man might NOT be in serious condition, but there’s no way for laypeople to tell. My mom was shocked that my son was in such bad shape.</p>
<p>Please PM me if I can be of any help. NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) is a great resource. They are always willing to give advice and support.</p>
<p>Um, she needs to step away. I find his behavior creepy. He is with them but says nothing. He still may be romantically interested and daughter is still involved withnhim and he may be mentally unbalanced. Does his sound like a good plan?</p>
<p>Seriously, think about this. He may be reading the signals all wrong. And then what?</p>
<p>If this were my daughter, in would tell her to step way back, avoid contact, and not tryband reuse him. Tuaregs disastornwaitng to happen.</p>
<p>My daughter said that her friend seems to be doing somewhat better. The RA spoke with him on Friday. She and her friends spent quite a bit of time with him over the weekend. They didn’t want him to be alone for very long because they were fearful for his safety. He interacted with them and seemed to be happy. She noticed that he had set up his room and put posters on the wall which she thought was a good sign. On Sunday he even suggested that they go to a pizza social in the dorm. It will be interesting to see if he continues to pick and scratch himself in class. She’s in four classes with him so she will be able to observe his behavior. I hope that he will get some counseling for his social anxiety.</p>