<p>Rising senior in college here. I applied to 5 schools and ended up at my absolute last choice, bottom of the barrell, no way would I ever go there even if it’s all I have. Like every fairytale out there, now I totally love it and couldn’t see myself anywhere else. Here are the ways I justified it to myself and got ready and learned to “love thy safety.”</p>
<p>1) Remove or get rid of all influences from other colleges you might rather attend. Give the Yale shirt to Goodwill and start reppin’ Big State U. Get a car decal. Having a graduation party? Use your new school’s colors as the theme. Change your facebook network. You get the idea. Surround yourself by the new stuff so you just get used to the idea of saying “Hey, I’m going to Big State U.” Do you have friends going to your new school? Hang out with them. Do you know people who constantly bash your school (coming from an elite private high school, my state’s big public u (which is where I go now) was almost constantly raked over the coals)? Avoid them. Have you had the chance to go visit your new school (now that it’s yours, and you’re no longer a prospective student?) If not, do it. Do whatever it takes to get excited about your new place.</p>
<p>2) I used the other acceptances–for me, to U Michigan and UVa (I’m outta state for both)–as incredible validation that hey, I really AM among the best of the best, and that was a good way for me to come to terms with feeling less than stellar about going to the school I didn’t want to go to. (I didn’t have to deal with universal rejection though, so this might not apply to some other people). Just because you go to the same school as kids who don’t care about school or party all the time or whatever doesn’t mean that you’re like that or that you’ll automatically become that–you can still be YOU, a good student with lots of goals, dreams and aspiriations, and can definitely achieve them at the school you’re going to. </p>
<p>3) Realize that 2+2 is always 4, macroeconomics always talks about financial markets on a larger scale, fraternities are never parts of “dry campus,” cell biology lectures are always dry, and home football games are nearly sold out (assuming you go to a school with a team). The point is that chances are, you’re going to get a GREAT education no matter where you go. Sure the small classes and individual attention and competitive student body of elite schools might be nice, but that’s probably all available at your school too…you just may have to work harder to find it. Honors college? Business fraternity? A rigorous major without many kids in it? etc. I’m kind of a nerd so the academic side was big–but you might swap social scene, sports teams, etc for the academic environment in this example.</p>
<p>4) (This probably only works if you didn’t have your heart absolutely set on one particular school.) Imagine yourself packing all your stuff up for college, loading it into (the the mode of transportation) and going to your new school. You get there, unpack your stuff, set up your room, look through all your new student materials. Then maybe you go out for a walk, explore your campus a little bit, grab a bite to eat at the student union. Later on you swing by the bookstore, pick up your books, and walk through campus to figure out where your new classes will be. That afternoon a few kids from your floor are playing a pickup ultimate frisbee game on the front lawn so you stop to join them for a little while, then you guys order pizza and hang out in your new dorms. As you’re going through this mental game of psyching yourself up for college, are you paying attention to the name of the school emblazoned across your hoodie? Did you notice specific buildings that only fit on the campus of one particular school? I highly highly doubt it. The things that mattered during that exercise were how you felt, how excited you were, and how you started to adjust. Those things are common to EVERY SCHOOL and many would argue that the education which happens outside the classroom is just as important (maybe more important) than what happens inside. In the end, the name of your school isn’t really going to matter. What matters is you, and how you deal with it, and what path you CHOOSE to start making your dreams come true. Might as well start choosing things that make you happy, and stop dwelling on the might have beens.</p>
<p>All it takes it a tiny bit of attitude adjustment. Good luck and most of all, have fun!</p>