<p>Well said, nceph! And polite too! That's as it should be. Thanks.</p>
<p>Audiophile-
Not sure I see your point, really, but since nceph did such a stellar job of addressing the realities of some aspects of college today, no point restating it.</p>
<p>Let me be clearer then. I have no issue with the thread's topic and think nceph's relating her daughter's experience was informative and appropriate here. My problem is that it's obvious some of the parents posting in it have a prurient, rather than academic interest in this subject. That's what I find distasteful and inappropriate. JMO FWIW.</p>
<p>I don't understand why sex is prurient. I really don't. And I don't know why it's distasteful. I have never understood this.</p>
<p>Some parents were countering arguments they found untrue with real life examples. So what?</p>
<p>Yes, sometimes the tone escalates, but that happens on both sides when people become frustrated when others don't see things their way. Something we all have to practice, I guess, and CC is a great place to do that.</p>
<p>Well then, Audio, perhaps you just shouldnt read them. JMO.<br>
FWIW, It is nice to see you back around these parts, audio. Haven't seen you hanging out here for several months. Just find it interesting that this is the thread you choose to read, or to post on.</p>
<p>I can't think of a post I've seen on this thread that comes within a mile of showing a "prurient, rather than academic interest in the subject". (Well, "academic" isn't the right word, either. I think the parents among us have a strong parental interest in the subject, meaning we are concerned about what we can do to help our children be strong and happy and good, and we worry about them, and we want to understand what's going on in their lives, and we want to be strong and happy and good ourselves. And we want to get some illusion of control -- which winds up being purely intellectual -- over things that we have very limited ability to control in the real world.) The students seem to be engaged in an effort to help other people's parents understand how things look from their perspective, something for which I am very grateful.</p>
<p>Here, here! :) (or is it, "hear, hear"?) ;)</p>
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<p>What can I say? It appealed to my prurient interest ;)</p>
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<p>OT:Thanks!! Time to do it all over again with D2 (now a 2nd semester junior!).</p>
<p>Second semester junior and you are just returning???? You got some catching up to do, audio!! But not in the "prurient" thread, unless you are taking notes to beat off all the male coeds with a stick! (that didnt come out sounding quite right, but I am *sure you know what I mean)</p>
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<p>I think I may just borrow that if I find myself referring any one to this site in the future.</p>
<p>FWIW, I think it is valid on a sex thread for posters to state their dissenting opinions when someone is promoting chain sex as a lovely and saintly thing to do -- as a service to mankind (LOL). Why must some posters feel like they must SHUSH other posters when they disagree with such sentiments -- and tell them to go away, just ignore it. If it is truly a discussion, then let people discuss ALL the viewpoints, including whether or not promoting chain sex is appropriate to post on this site. </p>
<p>And, I might add, I wonder how many kids would appreciate so many details of their sex lives being broadcast on the internet to thousands of strangers -- some posters are not exactly anonymous here. I don't feel like I am anonymous here -- I've met other posters IRL and put enough information out there that it would not be that difficult to unearth my identity (who cares) or my kids. My kids might care about what is posted about them, so I'm trying to watch what I put out there, just a little, and yes, I may have said too much, probably have . . . me and my big mouth, but you know, trying to show <em>some</em> respect for their privacy. And yes, I realize that of course some kids may not give a rip about what their parents post, we're all different, Yadadada . . . Just something to think about . . .</p>
<p>Okay, there. Those are the things that got under my skin with this one. JMO.
FWIW.</p>
<p>I agree with the reminder to watch what we post about our kids. I try to; you may thinks my results are dismal, but a worthwhile reminder just the same.</p>
<p>And I agree, there's not hard in saying, "Well, I don't consider that appropriate behavior," is fine, that's different than saying, "You shouldn't have posted that."</p>
<p>FWIW: All of my posts were trying to make sense of the question posed by OP. I don't have a personal itch to explore this topic, though I admit to rising to the bait sometimes. Here's an I statement: I really do think disapproval of consenting sexuality is constructive with caveats. I don't support anything that has to do with harm, including adults + underage people (have lost a friend over this one who thinks this is fine.) I only point this out to demonstrate that I don't think my interests or values are prurient.</p>
<p>My attitudes have been developed from study as a women's studies teacher, reader of literature, denizen of the sixties and all around observer. Not waving credentials to say I am right. Just discussing. And FWIW both my children are more conservative in their behavior than I was (if that's not revealing too much.) I respect them very much, not necessarily for that, but overall.</p>
<p>I understand that others disagree.</p>
<p>Thank you mythmom. I appreciate your response. </p>
<p>I guess one of my pet peeves (I now realize) is when other posters don't respond to what is being said in posts, but rather, tell other posters that if they don't like something or disagree with something being said, that they should be quiet and go sit in the corner. Thank you for not doing that!</p>
<p>There, got that off my chest!</p>
<p>This thread is really no different than the multitude of religious, political or any other polarizing topics that get people's panties in a wad (oops-- is that too purient?). If a teacher thinks they should throw the baby out with the bathwater...to not recommend a very useful site because there are a few threads that get edgy and/or off-topic .... thats just plain silly. It is short-sighted, IMO. I tell people that there is a ton of useful information on this site, but that you have to wade through to separate the wheat from the chaff. And I also warn people about wandering into the CC cafe. It can be dark and scary down there!! I stay out of the places that I don't find helpful, or interesting. I suggest that others do the same. But I would never tell someone that just because some things are not helpful (e.g. how many "chances" threads can we tolerate??), and some threads occasionally skate on the edge of appropriateness, that they should run far, far away. Let each person make their own decision.</p>
<p>mstee-
Not sure which posts are pushing your pet peeves button, and perhaps I misunderstand your concern. If so, I apologize in advance. That said, I don't see posters telling anyone to go stand in a corner (and what good would that do anyway??)-- I see people saying don't stand around here with picket signs or badmouth a site because of a disapproval of a particular discussion.</p>
<p>I like knickers in a twist, jym, sounds better than panties.</p>
<p>^^^ yeah, mathmom, but it is less "prurient" :) (and I thought it was knickers in a knot.. but what do I know of such things..)</p>
<p>mstee: I like a conversation, too, and replying to what people say. But sometimes people also like just posting what's on their minds, and I think that is okay, too.</p>
<p>I am a professor by profession (redundant, no?) so I make a habit of replying to ideas.</p>
<p>But I am also developing as a writer from these boards, and one of the best things for me is getting used to being ignored! when I am. My ego has to toughen up.</p>
<p>^^^ agreed again, mythmom. Sometimes posters respond to a previous post, sometimes they just opine about the original topic, and sometimes they just post a thought or a comment, not necesasrily a response to a specific question or comment. All are equally ok, IMO. Now, if we are going to share our pet peeves, mine is: someone posting what someone else just said a few posts before.. I really wish people would either read the thread and the posts, or state that they hadn't read it all and apologize in advance if their comment was redundant. Ok-- this is becoming the "get if off your chest" thread...</p>
<p>By the way, just to clarify -- I am not saying that anyone here posted what had just been said a few posts ago. I was just saying it was my pet peeve. </p>
<p>And mythmom-- since we know now, thanks to binx, that you are "real" (no myth..)-- we don't ever want you to feel invisible here!</p>
<p>Thanks, but it is good practice. Many writers have very think skins. A liability. Some will love, hate and be indifferent to my writing, and I'm trying to get used to it. But jym, your sentiment is very much appreciated.</p>
<p>BTW: The origin of my name is that I teach mythology!</p>
<p>re post #159: I appreciate and enjoy your posts. I wouldn't want to myth them.</p>