First, let me preface this by saying that of course there is no way I would ever insist on a kid going to BS, since that is a sure recipe for failure and misery.
Here’s the situation. I went to BS by happenstance. My parents were posted overseas, and it was BS or be homeschooled for HS. I was thrilled; it sounded like a big adventure to me, and I threw myself into the search with great enthusiasm. I wound up at PEA, and it was three of the best years of my life. I worked my butt off, was a solid B student, and had a blast.
So, when we had kids, BS was always a possibility in my head. My husband had a miserable time in school; got bored early and tuned out entirely. So, having been to alumni events with me and seen what’s possible, he is open to the idea. However, we’ve always known that BS is not for every kid. I had friends who were miserable at PEA, and probably shouldn’t have been there. So we waited to see who our kids turned out to be.
We now have a rising 8th grader, who we are both convinced would absolutely thrive at the right BS. He’s very smart, independent, and self-sufficient. He is thriving in the rigorous public school magnet program he’s in for middle school. And we will, of course, apply to the public school high school magnet programs. But a huge problem I have with that is the 3 hours a day spent commuting. That’s what he does now - fortunately by school bus - and he doesn’t complain about it. However, it really limits him to one extra-curricular. Going to BS would allow him to get involved in so much more.
To be honest, my original thought was PEA-or-bust… But then I discovered CC, spent WAY too much time reading a gazillion posts, and realized that it only makes sense to look at a variety of schools and figure out the best fit for him.
So… I have convinced him to at least apply to a bunch of schools. My argument to him is that the whole goal is to have options come next spring. He’d need full financial aid for any BS, so he needs to cast the net wide. The public school magnets are difficult to get into as well, so that’s not a sure thing either. From talking to other parents from the MS magnet, I’m concerned that he’d be pretty bored at our local HS. But he’d having a hard time envisioning going to BS. None of his friends are considering BS. It’s not unheard of around here, but it’s not common either. His friends will all be scattering to different high schools anyway, so that’s not the issue.
My question is, has anyone started off with a recalcitrant kid who wound up getting excited by the idea of BS? I’m hoping that visiting a bunch of schools this fall will do it, but I just don’t know. And, of course, I also worry that we’re setting him up for disappointment, since the odds of both getting in and getting full financial aid are not great.
Sigh. In many ways, this would be so much easier if I weren’t aware of the incredible opportunities available out there!