Tear my essay apart!!

Well, maybe not tear it apart, but feedback would be greatly appreciated! I chose the common app prompt, “Write about an event of personal, local, national importance” So…what do you think?

<pre><code> “Kirkuk suicide blast kills 19."
My heart dropped, my stomach turned, and shivers ran down my spine. One word from a stranger on television and I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach. For the millions of other people watching this story, it meant nothing, but for me, those five words had the potential of turning my life upside down. That’s what it was like for the six months my dad was in Kirkuk, Iraq. Every time the city was mentioned on the news, I froze, hoping that it was someone else, anyone else, just not my dad. I prayed every night that he would return safely and every time there was a report on the news that a soldier had been killed in a bomb blast in Kirkuk, I held my breath until I heard from him.
I never would have imagined that the absence of my dad would affect me as much as it did. Because of my parent’s divorce and my dad’s drinking problem we had never been as close as we could have been. When I was a little girl I didn’t realize that my dad had a drinking problem. It was just a part of who he was. At his apartment every Sunday afternoon, I would sit on the couch and do homework while he drank and eventually fell asleep. As I grew older and realized what was going on, I began to despise having to go to my dad’s house. There were so many times when I wished that he would just disappear from my life. I can honestly say that for the greater part of my childhood I didn’t love my own father.
All of that changed one Sunday when he told me he had been activated and was leaving for Iraq in September. At first I didn’t believe him. Over the years I had learned to take what he told me with a grain of salt. He had promised to come to awards ceremonies and chorus concerts at school many times before, but not once did he actually show up. That’s why, when he told me he was going to Iraq, I assumed he was exaggerating. But the one time when I wanted what he told me to be a lie, it was the truth. He really was leaving.
That September, as I began my Junior year in high school, I also said goodbye to my dad. As my friends thought about what they would wear the first day of school or how hard the classes would be, I thought about whether or not I would ever see my dad again. Suddenly Sundays, the same Sundays I had despised as a little girl because I had to go to my dad’s house, became unbearable because I couldn’t go to my dad’s house. As the fact that he really wasn’t here sank in, I realized how much I really do need him. Even though he hasn’t always been the perfect dad, I know that he loves me. While he may not be able to express it like other fathers, it doesn’t change the fact that he’s my dad and I love him too.
Looking back, it seems ironic that it took a war to bring us closer together. While he was away, I came to understand a lot about our relationship. I learned to forgive him for not taking a more active role in my life and was just glad that he was alive. I learned that no one is perfect and we all have our faults. People are going to do things that will let us down and make us angry, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t love us and want to be a part of our lives. I wouldn’t change one thing about my relationship with my dad. It’s helped me to understand the world and deal with disappointments. Having to accept my dad for who he is, not who I wish he was, has been hard, but it’s prepared me, more than anything else, for what the real world will be like.
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What are your opinions about going over the word limit…any suggestion as to what I could cut out? Thanks so much!

<p>Is that for Michigan?</p>

<p>nope, not for michigan. It's just my essay for the common application, so it's for more than more school.</p>

<p>This is one amazing essay. Don't change anything about it. It's really good.</p>

<p>Wow, thanks so much! But do you think it's personal enough, well i mean obviously its personal, but what i mean is, does it show an admissions committee anything about me that would be useful? That seems to be what I'm struggling with in my essays.</p>

<p>'Having to accept my dad for who he is, not who I wish he was, has been hard, but it’s prepared me, more than anything else, for what the real world will be like.'</p>

<p>A great ending to a great essay.</p>

<p>For word limits, be reasonable...I think I've heard that the general rule is like 10 percent over or under is how close you should stick to the given limit, but if the essay isn't dragging on, going over a few hundred words won't matter.</p>

<p>I understand that this is a rather personal topic to write about, but I felt that some of the descriptions seemed rather cliche and common. </p>

<p>Like " My heart dropped, my stomach turned, and shivers ran down my spine. " and "Over the years I had learned to take what he told me with a grain of salt. " </p>

<p>The descriptions just seemed to be a bit general, grand and sweeping...and I think that you should revise this essay by rewording some of the phrases and maybe sticking in a specific instance in detail (an anecdote) as opposed to writing about you and your dad's general relationship over the years.</p>

<p>Good essay, but I agree with janeeyre 100%. </p>

<p>"He had promised to come to awards ceremonies and chorus concerts at school many times before, but not once did he actually show up. " </p>

<p>Although this sentence is good for establishing evidence for your distrust in your dad, the examples are very cliche and can be seen in movies such as Maid in Manhattan, About a Boy, etc and numerous books as well x__X. </p>

<p>I liked your writing style though ^-^...it flowed very nicely and had a good hook! At first I was going to warn you about not putting your essay up, but seeing how personal it is, no worries about that xP</p>

<p>Good job.</p>

<p>I actually disagree with the above posters and think that the cliches actually fit very well with the style of the writing. Leave them.</p>

<p>And yes, it does convey a personal meaning because I learned from the essay that you will be willing to accept people of diversity, which most universities strive for.</p>

<p>Just out of curiosity, where are you applying?</p>

<p>by the way its Karkuk not Kirkuk</p>

<p>I liked it, yes the phrases were cliche but that is really how you feel when you are scared or shocked, trust me I know. The grain of salt thing that could be rethought, I don't know how but I'd change it. Otherwise I loved it!</p>

<p>A few cliches can work, but make sure they don't cross over. In your first stomach, you say "my stomach turned," and in the next, you say "I felt like I had been punched in the stomach." It's a bit much. Incorporate some more body parts (you mention breath later, so this could become a theme). "My head spun" maybe for the first stomach reference, say you would "give your right arm" to see him at one of your recitals, stuff like that. Make it very obvious that you use such expressions on purpose.</p>

<p>Thanks so much everyone....I completely agree with you about the cliches. This is why I love this forum...when you're reading something you wrote you don't even really notice stuff like that. </p>

<p>osmosis...not to sound condescending, but it's definitely Kirkuk lol</p>

<p>I completely agree about the grain of salt sentence. I couldn't think of anything else at the time and I meant to go back and change that but kind of forgot. </p>

<p>Again...thanks a bunch to everyone who relied...I can't tell you how glad I am for the advice. </p>

<p>thisSHHHisBANANAS: I'm applying to Brown, Colgate, Vassar, Bucknell, Muhlenberg, Hampshire, SUNY Geneseo, Ithaca, and Fairfield. You think this essay is good enough for all those schools once I fix the few things you guys mentioned?</p>

<p>Great essay! w/o all that junk vocab that we see on CC every other day... If I were you, I would leave it as it is. College adcoms aren't grammar teachers, they don't care how you write it as long as it bears a vivid essence of your life</p>

<p>Well done. Your statements of your experiences are IMO quite compelling, especially the one about "Other kids were thinking about what they would wear..., while I thought about whether or not..." </p>

<p>Cliche to address: "no one is perfect and we all have our faults."</p>

<p>Near the end, should be "It has helped me..." not "It's helped me..."</p>

<p>Shining star, I am an Iraqi and I know the cities in my country!!:D</p>

<p>osmosis...you have a good point lol, but i still think it's kirkuk. Every letter that my dad sent me while he was there was adressed from kirkuk, same with e-mails and if you search the internet and look at maps they all say kirkuk. Same with the news. That line that i started my essay and my reastion to it weren't made up, it was real and I have a distinct memory of it. i think that the official iraqi spelling is probably the way you spelt it but it can also be speeled kirkuk and that's how it's spelt on the news in the US lol.</p>

<p>It seemed rather bland to me. It didn't really stick out and say that it was extraordinary, nor do I think it will set you apart from other students applying.</p>

<p>I was reading through everyone's comments again and I had a couple of questions about some of them.</p>

<p>janeeyre: you thought i should chose a specific instance instead of writing about my relationship with my dad in general. I really liek this idea!! It seems like it would make the essay more interesting and easier to read. What do you think about in the sencond paragraph instead of writing about my dad's drinking problem and how it affected me in general, I tell a brief little story about how I came to realize he was an alcoholic. I think it would add a little spice to the essay, which marct87 thinks is bland. On a side note, i did a research paper on the bronte sisters last year and I loved Jane Eyre!! Great screen name!! lol</p>

<p>thistlepanger: you said that the sentence about him not coming to chrus concerts and stuff was too common and general. I kind of agree with you, it is overused, but those really are specifically events that stick out in my mind. Any ideas for how I could change that sentence. Perhaps I could go with janeeyre's idea and tell a brief story or something. My only problem is that these stories would take up a but more words and I really feel like I'm pushing the limit already.</p>

<p>People may disagree but I will say it anyway. You lost direction after mentioning about the situation of thinking your father may have died. You have to bridge that gap or change the essay around. I sort of lost interest in a way. Im not trying to be mean but reread it. I just felt like there was something missing thats all. Watch I am going to get posts after this tearing me apart. Let me have it lol.</p>