<p>I assume (hope) everyone has a friend like this so my pain is shared and not just focused on me. My friend A and I were really close in middle school and promised each other we would still be friend in HS. So 3years later I haven't actually seen her since middle school graduation but I still get texts from her. The problem is, is that she is SUPER DEPRESSING!!!</p>
<p>Every time I get a text from her I know something "bad" just happened, and she feels like killing herself. Like literally that's how all our convos go, she is down and I try to motivate her (always fail). Like there will be months with no contact then BOOM there is pops up and is all depressing with her "problems". </p>
<p>Like right now she is talking about how she hates her life because her bipolar bf broke up with her and is now engaged to another girl. (yeah I don't believe it either). </p>
<p>UGH! So HSL do you have friends like A and if so how do you deal with them because she is really starting to tick me off!</p>
<p>Nope, I don’t have a friend like that. I suggest that you stop being her friend. People change, and you two seem to have grown apart. That’s just the way things work.</p>
<p>So like just stop replying to her texts? I don’t want to read on the news though that they found her dead because she killed herself or something.</p>
<p>It’s a terrible thing to hope that everyone has a suicidal friend.</p>
<p>I hope it cheers you up to know that perhaps just being there has helped save her life. If you feel that you can’t really help out and offer sound advice, give her a suicide hotline. </p>
<p>Hotline : 1-800-784-8433</p>
<p>Or, if you’re exaggerating and she isn’t really threatening to end her life… know that this isn’t something to be joking about. If she’s upset and it’s annoying you, chances are, she’s feeling very utterly alone and you’re one of the last people she can go to. Just keep an open mind and open heart and know that everyone is fighting their own internal and/or external war. She may be contacting you because you don’t see her every day and therefore, you won’t be there to spread rumors or rants about her. You won’t be around her circle of friends. It may very well take a load of her shoulders to talk about these sort of things or just vent… and not worry about having to confront you the following day.</p>
<p>If you are truly irritated and want to “deal with it”, call her and suggest she go seek counselling or you can suggest some support chatrooms for her. If you really want her to get the message though, you should meet up with her… whether it be a calm talk in a cafe or something else.</p>
<p>Sorry if my posts come off as cruel/heartless but so many teenagers create drama over such insignificant events. Since your ‘friend’ does this all the time, why would she really be in trouble this time? I hate to be so mean, but this is typical drama queen behavior, not someone who I would want to hang out with.</p>
<p>@ViTong4 Well I didn’t really mean that, it was just the anger I felt at the moment when I said I hopped for that. And no I’m not joking that is how she starts out everyone conversation by talking about how she wants to kill herself. Also I have given her the number multiple times but she has never called it (at least I don’t think). Also yeah I’ve suggested that but she said her parents can’t afford it and the school psychologist tells her to go see someone professional. I told her to look online good resorces but she said she is to lazy and busy. </p>
<p>@defree124 I have a serious talk about her prob;ems every time we talk. I guesfs I will just have to let her go…I hate to do that though but oh well…</p>
<p>@dfree124
… it’s just all the changes we go through in life… people feel like everything in the world suddenly becomes a personal attack. “what? I have to do the laundry? and fold my own socks?! WHAT IS THIS MADNESS?” … often times this type of complaining makes me roll my eyes and or chuckle… but in OP’s case… I think the friend needs help… but there really isn’t much she can do…</p>
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<p>Aiight. It’s good that you didn’t mean it ^^" I apologize as well if I’m blunt.
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It’s good that she’s seeing her school psychologist. Calling a hotline can be quite intimidating so I don’t really blame her for not calling. </p>
<p>huh. You DO have the option of letting her go; however, it’s a tough situation knowing she seems really needy. It could make or break her… and that’s not a risk I would take. </p>
<p>It’s best if she calls hotlines. Chatrooms don’t have professionals talking… so please please please try to get her to call. Even if it means meeting up with her and having her call then. Or calling the hotline together on speaker.</p>
<p>(Am I the only one who thought that a friend called A sending weird text messages was kind of funny? Yes?)</p>
<p>Well, like someone said, I hope you’re exaggerating a bit about what she’s telling you- if she is seriously threatening to kill herself, that’s a very different matter and I would hope that you could show a bit more empathy and understanding to someone dealing with depression.</p>
<p>If she’s just a bit of a debbie downer, then yes, I’ve had several friends like that. I was sick of their constant pessimism and negativity- they would get worked up over little things then complain about how terrible their life was if something didn’t end up working out. I eventually just moved on completely, and tried to subtly hint that I would not enjoy their company any longer.
You said you haven’t seen her in several years, so it shouldn’t be too hard to just stop answering her texts. Let her know that you’ll be there to talk if she has a serious problem, but give an excuse like “Oh, I’ve limited my texting plan so I can’t send as many messages”. If all else fails, pull the classic trick reply “Error 0483, this user has opted not to receive messages from phone number [girl’s number]”. Works every time ;)</p>
<p>My friend was like that, and she actually ended up downing a bottle of migraine pills. So even if it does seem like teenage dramatics, I would honestly recommend trying to convince her to get some help. She’ll end up healthier mentally, and you’ll have her out of her hair.</p>
So even if it does seem like teenage dramatics, I would honestly recommend trying to convince her to get some help. She’ll end up healthier mentally, and you’ll have her out of her hair.</p>