<p>^ What's that supposed to mean?! I'm trying to figure out how to solve this problem--I don't understand how I need to "get over myself."</p>
<p>I think the first question that needs to be addressed is this: why do you go to Mass with sauronvoldemort?</p>
<p>Where does sauronvoldemort live? If it's in KC, then it might be him....lol.</p>
<p>Um...throw holy water on him? (The real stuff :D)</p>
<p>Chocolatelover, I know everyone here is making light of it, but this is indeed a serious matter. Are most of the responders guys? Because this is a <em>very</em> creepy situation for a young woman to find herself in.</p>
<p>First, you have to tell your parents what is going on. Show them the letter. Someone who is in a position to protect you needs to know.</p>
<p>Next, if it continues, be prepared to go to the police. </p>
<p>This does not sound like high school note passing; it sounds more like you've attracted a stalker.</p>
<p>Momwaitingfornew--Yeah, I have shown my mom the letter, and she thinks that it is really funny. I'm just going to avoid the guy
Thanks for your concern!</p>
<p>ooh post the letter on here... but dont be mean to him or anything.. i think you should just leave a note for him ...</p>
<p>I actually threw away the letter because it was haunting me...no joke. I couldn't bear to keep it anymore.</p>
<p>I don't think you can call the police without first warning him. Just let him down softly. Don't be mean about it. Just make up an excuse that sounds genuine. You really can't expect someone to leave you alone without saying a word to him.</p>
<p>^ I totally understand that...I really hate confronting people though...I'm going to avoid him for as long as I can.</p>
<p>Just tell him to "***** off". It works and sometimes you need to say that to people.</p>
<p>"I don't think you can call the police without first warning him."</p>
<p>Why not?</p>
<p>Does Chocolatelover even know him, other than seeing him in church? If someone breaks into your house, do you have to warn him before you call 911?</p>
<p>If he is a friend, then she should talk to him gently. However, if she doesn't know him, then she should take measures to protect herself. Obviously, I don't know everything about the situation, although it strikes me that this is a potentially dangerous situation. Yeah, it's most likely harmless. But what if it isn't?</p>
<p>Calling the police for writing a letter? Are you kidding?</p>
<p>^^It's more than that. Or maybe it isn't. We can't tell from Chocolatelover's brief account. However, the guy not only wrote her a strange letter, but he stares at her. He makes her feel uncomfortable. Women have learned to use their instincts to determine when something just isn't right. The tone of Chocolatelover's first post suggested that she felt that there was something more than just a letter that people can laugh over. Show of hands -- how many women on the thread think that the situation is not creepy? If you saw this guy as a character in a movie, wouldn't you immediately think that the heroine has to be careful of him?</p>
<p>I'm not saying that it <em>is</em> serious, only that it might be. I was disturbed by the way some posters dismissed Chocolatelover's concern to instead focus on the ridiculous imagery/wording of the letter and what a loser the guy might be.</p>
<p>chocolatelover, im with momwaitingfornew on this one. </p>
<p>i've been in this sich before and it was rly scary. this guy i met at a party looked up my entire biodata and found stuff out about me through facebook and whatnot. he started showing up at every single event i went to - staring at me, sending drinks my way. at first, he acted like he was just passing by or as if he was with some other people but when he showed up at my school, i got a little weirded out. he sent me love letters and pictures of himself & crap he'd photoshopped that had pics of me & him in hearts? i kept rejecting his every invite. my friends thought it was sooo funny - esp my guy friends. when i told my mom, she laughed and said i was getting too full of myself, that i was making a big deal out of a guy who was just being friendly. i kinda thought it was funny too, i mean seriously, what a loser. last feb, he sent me flowers and stuff for V-day. that night, as i put the trash outside, i thought i saw his car parked across the street.... CREEPY. but whatev, i just went back inside.
the next week, we read in the newspaper that the guy was arrested. he was a convicted sex offender who'd violated his parole restrictions. </p>
<p>conclusion: stay the hell away from him. you never know.</p>
<p>the most logical solution is to either warn him then file a restraining order, or to just call the police right away. But I think that the first one is better.</p>
<p>I thought he was a little church boy... lol</p>
<p>Hell, forget the restraining order - those never work. Just get a .45 and take matters into your own hands. This thread has gotten downright ridiculous. Just talk to the guy and say you're not interested.</p>
<p>what if he doesn't go away? what do you suggest she do then?</p>
<p>If he is a complete stranger, she should not talk to him. If he is someone she knows, she can tell him gently, in a public place, that she would like her to leave him alone. </p>
<p>She should never engage him in a lengthy conversation, especially if she does not know him. Many of you seem to believe that he is just a normal guy who has a crush on Chocolatelover. His behavior--and Chocolatelover's description of him as "obsessed"--suggests that he does not know how to interact normally with a woman. He may even have a history of stalking.</p>