<p>I tried eating by myself once or twice, right after my lectures bc i was hungry. it felt weird since everyone seemed to have there groups. Now, I always get myself a group of friends to come with me, even one is good. I don’t even go with my hall mates to eat my meals. Usually, i go with my friends from pre orientation trips or my sport team. Finding an interest can lead to friendships. Finding that interest is key.</p>
<p>i eat alone most of the time. though i dont find it awkward… i see eating time as a time to eat so im not picky about if theres people to talk to… and im a senior! </p>
<p>truth is, friends will never come to you. what you got to do right now is go on dc++, download a couple of tv shows and drown yourself in it. my weekly tv shows generally include house, grey anatomy, smallville, leverage, bones, mentalist, and at the moment also scrubs. i also watch a few hours of anime per week. just find stuff to do on your own. dont just sit there lol</p>
<p>oh if you need a club but can’t find one, you can start your own. </p>
<p>start a Loneliness club or something. im sure u’ll get to meet plenty of people. its a big campus afterall</p>
<p>PS: I bet everyone here who says they are lonely are guys =D</p>
<p>Just a comment to Islander4 - you started this thread. I noticed you were also very quick to respond to the thread about the attractiveness of the girls, saying the girls aren’t very pretty here. Maybe its that attitude thats causing your problems. I’m sure you have the grace to know not to say to people that they’re not that cute, but often it’s hard to hide that kind of sentiment about people. maybe girls can sense when you’re bored with them? </p>
<p>I also saw a post you wrote about the nightlife not being quite up to par, and that its mostly just hanging out in random places. Maybe you’re being too picky about who/where you spend time with? It might help you to be sure to always keep an open mind. Try everything, especially this early you can just go hang out with pretty much any big group you see in your dorm, on north etc. They may not seem like the people you’ll be best friends with, but you never know. Especially freshman year, lots of fun times kind of evolve from a random hang out. like you’ll be sitting around with a group and someone will have the idea to go to a movie or whatever and you’ll all go. when you’re not close with people yet its harder to make concrete plans, but its really easy to just kind of tack onto a group and go along with them until you become close enough to be included in plans.</p>
<p>The post tracking is cute, but I’m not going to follow every little bee I come across. I’m sure you can agree with that.</p>
<p>tacking onto a group only works if you’re cute…otherwise you’re a creep (serious). </p>
<p>that goes for male or female.</p>
<p>Throw a party. Post in your dorm.
Make everyone on CC come, and each bring one other person.
Nobody tells CC handles, so no embarassment there.</p>
<p>Its best to put yourself out there, really take intiative and make deliberate effort, till you eventually find your group. Most people find it, but till that happens it can be lonely.</p>
<p>Join a club. Get a part-time job, those can be useful socially as well as using some time productively. If weekend evenings are a problem get a weekend job.</p>
<p>one good thing about not having a group of friends…no drama that goes along with it ;)</p>
<p>i have enough drama with the friend i have here and there >></p>
<p>they don’t make them like they used to</p>
<p>For those of you who like to eat by yourself, I would recommend eating at locales that encourage such practices, like the Big Red Barn or Ivy Room. Some of my fondest memories at Cornell are of eating a Chicken Hillary at the Big Red Barn, alone, with a good buck to read.</p>
<p>And OMG… I haven’t had a chicken hillary in years. That’s obviously going to have to be reconciled next Friday at Homecoming.</p>
<p>forget chicken, dijon burger at the Ivy room for the win.</p>
<p>Islander4, it’s not something I typically do but you’ve honestly sparked my interest. I remember being worried about making friends before I got here and then the minute I did being overwhelmed by the number of people I was meeting, talking to etc. Did the vast majority of them become close friends? no of course not, but you’re posts made me think back and realize that I met my best friends through random acquaintances or because we both went to dinner or something with a group (even if we never hung out with the rest of the group again).</p>
<p>Obviously you can’t go along with everyone you see. But those random people you hung out with 3 times after a class or sat down next to in RPU become really nice to know down the line because they’re what make the school a manageable size. Even if you don’t click with someone, you’d be surprised how easy it is to sit down next to them in a class where you don’t know anyone else, and how grateful you’ll be to have a familiar face.</p>
<p>feel free to visit me. that goes for anyone here</p>
<p>anbu…i never thought of you as a grey’s anatomy fan…</p>
<p>we should have hung out when i was there ;)</p>
<p>lol i watch it to pass time. its amusing sometimes i guess.</p>
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<p>Alas, chicken leaves a better carbon footprint.</p>
<p>didnt know you were a cap and trader cayuga!</p>
<p>I see ads everywhere advertising Cornell Dining’s switch to all local beef.</p>