This is awful...

<p>...I feel like a damn loner on weekends. In at least two weeks of being on campus, I don't think I've truly gotten to know anyone that I can consider a friend. I'll always have the nice occupation of class during the weekdays, but once those end, I'm pretty much on my own. The only people I really talk to are mere acquaintances, and acquaintances have never really done anything for me. Is there anything around the campus I can do on the free Saturday (night included)? The dorm looming gets a bit bored and useless after a while...</p>

<p>maybe you can take out riley john…</p>

<p>it seems he spends all his time cooped up on skype with the girlf</p>

<p>join the club.
i think i’ve learned the art of eating alone for the first time at cornell.
i get ****ed/lonely when i hear people laughing in the hallways.
dammit
wanna join me for a cup of milk and cookies?
jk
but just sayin’, you’re not alone</p>

<p>well i’m not sure where you guys got the idea that this would be anything like hogwarts or w/e…</p>

<p>cornell life revolves around the frats and house parties…</p>

<p>yep: not alone. im by myself most of the time</p>

<p>feeling exactly the same hahaha</p>

<p>you guys freshmen? what dorms?</p>

<p>+1 to the ‘not alone’ crowd haha</p>

<p>why don’t you all meet up, and plan things out? might find new friends, who are going to be (hopefully) more than acquaintances? :)</p>

<p>What you can do on Saturday? Watch movies? Go to one of the parks with, sorry, your acquaintances so you can get to know them more? Kayaking while it’s still possible! or play sports?</p>

<p>it’s not like hogwarts?
damn. because i was really waiting for that ■■■■■.</p>

<p>Nah don’t worry too much guys. A lot of people don’t really find their true “niche” until a few months in. Its no big deal really. As long as you are trying out new clubs and other non-academic stuff (or just meeting people) you will definitely find a group of friends!</p>

<p>I’m a junior right now and from experience I can say that you’ll meet new people all the time. The people who were freaking out about how they thought they didn’t have any close friends at the beginning of freshmen year eventually found their own groups and are very happy.</p>

<p>Keep in mind that you’ve only been here for like 3 weeks…give it time!</p>

<p>it wouldnt hurt to use online resources such as this one to meet people…you guys should meet up and maybe watch a movie or play a board game…</p>

<p>and no there is no “definite” in finding a group of friends…not everyone is meant to be in a group…</p>

<p>Check out

  • unicycle club - Sunday afternoons
  • Dilmun Farm work parties - day???
  • maybe a campus job might help you meet some nice people while giving you some spending money.
    Good luck!</p>

<p>so…anyone want to meet up?</p>

<p>Cornell is a big place. Good thing is you could always meet new people. Bad thing is it is too big. What to do is to bring it down to a manageable size. The way to do that is belong to a “group.” You could join a rock climbing group, intramural sports, theater, dance, or even a video game club (I am sure there is one at Cornell). Instead of studying in your room, go to a library where most students go. </p>

<p>Meal time is the toughest. When you are eating alone, it seems like everyone is looking at you and there is a spotlight on you. I would try to plan ahead to meet up with people. My daughter used to plan her group’s dinner time. She would make sure 2-4 she liked could have dinner at a certain time, then everyone else texted her to figure out the time. If you are like my daughter, who is a planner, then take the lead of getting people together. If not, you figure out who is the organizer, and be on the distribution list or take the initiative to text the person.</p>

<p>I know some people are adverse to join a fraternity or sorority, but it is a good way of making Cornell smaller. Right now, they are looking for new members to rush. Even if you don’t plan on rushing, try to get a group of people to go to some of frat parties this semester. You don’t have to drink (a lot), but it’s a good opportunity to meet people (even some upper classmen). </p>

<p>It’s not easy to get adjusted to a new place. We are going through something similar with our younger daughter (16) in a new country/high school. She has good days and bad days. We are on an upward trend now, so I hope all of you guys will start having better days too.</p>

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I wouldn’t mind.</p>

<p>i wouldn’t mind either; except that it’d be kind of awkward seeing these id’s in real life
:P</p>

<p>lol 10char</p>

<p>you can do stuff alone without feeling lonely. it takes some getting used to but after a while it’s fun because you don’t have to deal on the whims of others. just so far this year I’ve gone alone to the library downtown, the mall, the farmers’ market, Cornell cinema, and the plantations.
I don’t have friends in the classic laughing-together-in-the-halls sense but I am not meeting up with any freshmen. :)</p>

<p>I mean, I would meet up haha</p>