<p>but i'm really curious if ANYONE else has this problem:</p>
<p>one week, i look in the mirror, and i find how i look acceptable. i can see what people talk about when they compliment me, but i don't really like myself, probably because of other, private reasons.</p>
<p>the next week, i hate myself. this sounds really bad. but i see these things in myself that, apparently, nobody else sees. </p>
<p>there are just differences i see in myself every other week, and it drives me nuts. i'll get compliments both weeks (not trying to sound conceited), but i'm always so suspicious if it's an off week. if they're just trying to make me feel better, or something. i feel like i get more compliments on my good weeks, but that could be because i feel better, or i'm just seeing things heavily biased. </p>
<p>it really is on a weekly basis. things always change on saturday. i'll wake up on a saturday, and, depending on the week, be like "oh no," or "yes, finally."</p>
<p>i'm so confused by this! :(</p>
<p>or maybe just opinions? lol</p>
<p>Well I’m not a chick, so I don’t know about the appearance aspect, but I along with many high school students, do have concern about what others think of them. </p>
<p>Maybe people see your lack of self-esteem during the “off-weeks” and that’s what makes them not compliment you? </p>
<p>For many, certain events makes self esteem vary. These events maybe may cause the student to interpret true compliments of others as “fake” or “sympathy” compliments, which show how pitiful a person is in terms of High School life. Jokes can be taken seriously (in one’s mind, later on, usually) and can also damage self-esteem.</p>
<p>Maybe you are more comfortable with your family, (hence an improvement usually on Saturday morning).</p>
<p>No offensive in this comment, but with a lot of High Schooler’s it initially is “all in their head”, but later people ignore them and such, (or give sympathy compliments) because of their lack of self-esteem.</p>
<p>well, i’m not sure how apparent my lack of self-esteem is. and on my good weeks, i really do feel good about myself. usually, people stop complimenting me if i act dismissive, and i act that way when i’m feeling really bad. but during my good weeks, i say things like, “thanks!” if it’s a good week, i’m able to let the compliment help me feel better.</p>
<p>and i do tend to over analyze people’s comments. if they say i look “cute,” for example, i’ll think it’s not pretty, but kind of iffy, and too young looking. lol or they’ll say they like my outfit, but make no other comment on my appearance, and i’ll assume i look otherwise bad. </p>
<p>haha yeah i’ve got issues.</p>
<p>Well from my own experience if you know the person well it’s cool to act dismissive over a compliment (on whatever the compliment may be). If you don’t then they may not feel like its worth it…or something…yeah…idk im not really sure what the average high school student’s thought process is… </p>
<p>I honestly don’t know, but Ive never heard any girls who aren’t friends comment on one’s actual appearance other than the outfit, maybe its just to intimate if you don’t know the person well enough… or if just in passing the outfit strikes them as unique and pretty, and they think the compliment will carry weight if they don’t also always compliment your face/ call you cute…(I just automatically tune in to everything being spoken around me all the time, so I guess Im pretty knowledgeable about social relationships and such…)</p>
<p>usually it’s just my friends. and yeah, i’m not sure if i’m being rude or not when i act dismissive, but i hope they don’t take it that way. </p>
<p>and that sounds true lol, but i think that i’ll always wonder.</p>
<p>Same here… I had a lot of social anxiety (which I closeted) and spoke too quietly and with a nervous edge, later I realized speaking louder and deeper would make people at least acknowledge my thoughts more, and I started changing based on what I saw would help me… It was a slow process, but had gradual results… I know some people just couldn’t do that, and still a lot of people just didn’t like me…</p>
<p>yeah well the best of luck to you…</p>