Hi. Thanks for reading this because I know there’s a lot of threads like this right now, but I just really need some support.
Obviously college decisions have been coming out and it didn’t go great for me. I got rejected at every selective school I applied to…I got into some good publics/safeties but nothing with a sub-45% acceptance rate. I have one affordable school I’m fine with going to, so it’s not that I have nowhere to go, it’s just that I thought I’d spend April making a bunch of agonizing choices and now my choice has basically been made for me.
I know my applications could have been better – essay was OK but not wow, ECs were lackluster I suppose but I worked and volunteered and did some clubs – but I had a 4.0 GPA, 36 ACT, NMF, and research experience, so academically I don’t know what more they could have wanted from me. I knew I’d get rejected from the Ivies but I wasn’t expecting the T20s and selective publics to reject me too. I don’t know; maybe I didn’t apply to enough schools, but I simply didn’t like a lot of the more selective (top 50 or 100) schools and I had plenty of safeties, so I thought I was doing things right.
The thing is, I don’t even want to go to a top school if I’m being honest – they’re too small and elitist for me, and I never was hyper focused on them like some people on CC (not insulting anyone, it’s just I never had a “dream” school or anything and didn’t spend HS prepping for college apps) so I wasn’t expecting it to bother me so much. But it does. I really do think I’d chose the same school anyway, but I wanted to at least have the choice. It just hurts to know I’m not good enough for those schools and honestly I don’t understand why I didn’t get accepted to at least one, especially the school where I did research with a professor. I couldn’t have afforded it but I wanted to at least get accepted, you know?
I’m on the wait list for three schools but I’m not that interested – I’m sort of offended that they only want me if no one better shows up, plus of course the money aspect. Everyone tells me that I still have a chance, but I know I don’t and I don’t want it anymore anyway.
I just feel like everyone expected me to go to a “good” school and now I’m disappointing them – my parents aren’t mad, they feel bad for me, but I know they imagined more for me. My teachers encouraged me to apply to selective schools and told me I could do it, and now I have to admit that I wasn’t good enough. Everyone’s been asking me where I’m going and when I tell them, they just say “oh.” It’s embarrassing because the one school is close by so of course everyone knows I applied.
I got a great scholarship at the other school, so I know I’m lucky. I like the school, I know I’ll have fun there. It’s just harder than I thought to let go of hopes I didn’t even realize I had, I guess.
Sorry; that was way too long but I just needed to let it out because my family’s tired of hearing it by now and I was hoping someone could relate. Please don’t tear me apart.