<p>I sometimes tell guys to not open the door for me; to stop being such a damn gentlemen. I'm afraid they like me or something. :(</p>
<p>I never open the door, stand next to it, and wait for the girl to go through first. It's very inefficient and a waste of time.
Rather, I just hold the door behind me as I go through first (if I was there first).
The only exception, of course, is if she is carrying something or otherwise having trouble transporting.</p>
<p>If I did, I'm sure some girls would feel uncomfortable, like the above poster.</p>
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But, I get pretty furious when the girl doesn't say 'thank you' or at least acknowledge the fact that you held the door for her. What's weird about that is that it's usually the uglier girls that ignore you.
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<p>If there's someone behind me I just hold the door open until the grab it (regardless of it's a guy or girl). Exceptions being if they're carrying a lot or if they held it open for me first (like if there's two doors in an entryway). If I always held open doors for girls I think it would be a little awkward.</p>
<p>If something is unsolicited, why expect a thank you? You're only holding the door for the girl because of what is under her pants; do you think she doesn't know that? Maybe that's why she doesn't feel obliged to thank you.</p>
<p>A pretty large number of the guys at my school hold doors open for girls (including those they don't know)...or at least in my experience. Not always in just the holding it behind them sort of thing, either. Just this morning a guy in my CIS class that I've never even talked to before waited by the door until I got there (only a few seconds, nothing creepy) and opened it for me to go through first. Guys in Business majors are definitely more likely to hold them than the Engineering guys here, too...just something I've noticed. </p>
<p>But I don't think it's sexist or anything. It's actually a pretty good way to get girls to look twice at you and assume you to be a nice guy. I dunno, but I'm much more likely to talk to a guy who doesn't let the door slam in my face...and even more likely to talk to them if they actually let me through first. </p>
<p>And yeah, I think it's a little rude not to say thanks or at least smile at someone who held the door open (either way) for you. I used to be really uncomfortable with the opening and let you in first thing until I realized that they're just trying to be nice...so yeah...acknowledge that they did something nice. They could have just let it slam in your face, after all.</p>
<p>I hold doors open for anyone.. especially girls.</p>
<p>I think Chivalry is to good a think to let die</p>
<p>I am a girl and I loathe the whole "hold a door open for a girl" thing. I'm very capable of opening it myself, thanks - when you do it for me I feel like you think I can't. And I know that you feel I ought to be treated differently because I am a girl. "Common courtesy" is to open doors for anyone, boys or girls, if the circumstances are right - which I gladly do. It's just polite. But the VERY LAST thing I want is special consideration JUST because I'm a girl. Your hearts are in the right place, but seriously, quit it. Let chivalry rot for all I care. All it does is make me feel bad, for getting "special consideration". I don't think it's too much to ask for that I do not get treated differently on the basis of my gender. Chivalry puts girls on a pedestal, and I for one want nothing to do with that effing pedestal.</p>
<p>Well a similar question is do you give up your seat on the bus for a girl? I always do. They're all happy that I do because they really look uncomfortable standing. So, weirdoone, are you saying that some of those girls are annoyed when I do that? Because it seems quite the contrary.</p>
<p>I've had a prof open the door for me to his office (twice) and I realized that he wasn't going to enter until I went in first (I'm a girl). So since he's a lot taller than me I had to duck under him because he didn't hold the door by the handle.. Kind of awkward...</p>
<p>But I don't mind if a guy or a girl holds the door open for me since it's common courtesy and I do the same for everyone.</p>
<p>I hold the door open when I feel like it. I always do it for people younger than me and for the elderly and professors. Sometimes, I would hold the door open for girls and let them go first. Same for guys. I always hold the door open for the people behind me (I count 3 seconds). I think guys who hold the door open for girls ALL the time are foolish. As for public transportation, I don't give up my seat unless the person is pregnant, elderly, and/or with kids. First come, first serve. Needless to say, I don't believe in that chivalry crap. It makes my blood boil, especially when the girl expects the door to be held open for her. The girls here don't even hold the door as they go through. </p>
<p>Why exactly do you need to open the door for a girl, unless you're trying to show interest in her (which is a different matter)?</p>
<p>Smurfgirl, why is that awkward? I do that for kids. Makes me feel much older.</p>
<p>Yes exactly what Sauron said. Usually when a girl is about to enter a door, I rush ahead of her and open the door so I can go through first and I always slam the door shut behind me before she can follow. I do this so that girls will be able to shed that weak image by becoming buff from having to open so many doors, just like how I became buff and have muscular biceps that impress the weak girls. But I'm not into weak girls until they become strong enough to open their own doors instaid of pouting their lips towards a door and expecting me, a total stranger, to serve them like I'm their paid servant.</p>
<p>Some of you guys are pathetic. In the south it's almost expected to open a door for a girl, among other things, not because you are "trying to get in her pants" but because it's part of being a gentleman.</p>
<p>exactly utx</p>
<p>i always open for people older than me and people of the opposite sex.</p>
<p>I hold the door open for people as I go through, gender notwithstanding (and none of this 'run up and stand at attention with the door', unless its for my Mom or family). And over the past couple of weeks, I've been making more of an effort to say 'thank you' after someone holds the door open for me. But I don't hold it against people if they don't say 'thanks', because I know I used to be like that for a long time.</p>
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Chivalry's not dead.
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<p>Yes it is. See?</p>
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Let chivalry rot for all I care.
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<p>And if you dare venture to those scary places on the Internet where feminists run wild, you'd get only about 100X affirmations of the above statement. Wake up, chivalry has been crushed under the serrated-edge stilettos of feminism. </p>
<p>Just you keep on being "chivalrous" in today's world...and see if you don't end up being accused of rape (for 'chivalrously' transporting a drunken woman home), stuck paying for someone else's kid (after deciding to 'heroically' date a single mother even though she 'appears' to only be interested in your wallet [maybe she'll change in marriage?]) or something far worse.</p>
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<p>You are from the east coast aren't you ?</p>
<p>One of my mom's old friends really, really hated it when men held open doors for her, because she thought it implied that she was weak and frail and couldn't do it herself. She'd stop and tell them off occasionally, though I never saw her do it. Her daughter turned into one of those boy-crazy ditzes in high school...I always thought that was amusing.</p>
<p>I usually hold doors open for people if they're a reasonably close distance behind me, close enough that I don't have to stop for more than about 1 or 2 seconds. Just a common courtesy thing. I don't like when people do it for me as much because that forces me to interact with them and I'd rather get on with my day interacting with as few random strangers as possible. I usually just smile at them.</p>
<p>What I really hate is when you get the occasional person that will stand and hold the door open when you're like 50 feet away, and they're standing there staring at you the whole time, and you're making a point of looking anywhere but at them because it's just weird, and then they grin at you like they're the most awesome person ever for standing there for the past 30 seconds, holding that door wide open. I also find that older men are most likely to hold open a door and wait for me to go through it before they go through. Also sort of weird...I do that for my friends and people carrying stuff but not for strangers.</p>
<p>I did have this one weird instance my freshman year where I had this trunk on wheels that I had to transport about a block and a half...some guy saw me doing it and asked if I needed help carrying it, I said no, and then he proceeded to follow me the rest of the way anyway and sprint ahead of me when I came to a door so he could hold it open for me, while simultaneously being in my way in the doorway. ***. Leave me alone and let me press the handicap button by myself, thanks.</p>
<p>I hold the door for everyone. Not really open it. I am girl by the way. But there is nothing more irrating, when some girl on her cellphone, lets the door shut on your face, lol.</p>
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Smurfgirl, why is that awkward? I do that for kids. Makes me feel much older.
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<p>It's awkard to duck under your male professor. And I don't want to feel like a little girl around him. (Yes, I'm pretty short which makes me feel like a little girl).</p>
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<p>Hmm..my prof is southern, so maybe that's why he refuses to go into his office until I go in first? </p>
<p>I didn't read that, I just responded to the OP.</p>
<p>Definitely more of a Southern thing. I'm all for equality and all that, but I'm certainly no rabid fem-bot that can't accept kind gestures. </p>
<p>Do you let your guy friends pay for you sometimes (not as in a date or anything, but just because they're a friend and want to)? </p>
<p>Anyway, I don't expect for guys to do the let me in first thing at all (although I definitely take notice), but I do expect for anyone, guy or girl, to hold it open if I'm right behind them. I can open the door myself, but it's just rude to not hold it...and it's especially rude to be a ***** and tell someone off for trying to be nice.</p>
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Well a similar question is do you give up your seat on the bus for a girl? I always do. They're all happy that I do because they really look uncomfortable standing. So, weirdoone, are you saying that some of those girls are annoyed when I do that? Because it seems quite the contrary.
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<p>I know you didn't ask me, but just to comment on this...I definitely don't expect this sort of thing, but when I'm standing in a room and all the seats are taken, it's really nice to have someone notice and offer their seat to me. It may be a little awkward (sometimes I just smile and tell them I'm fine standing) but it's another one of those things that's just nice. I would expect someone to give their seat up to an elderly, pregnant, or hurt person, though...or someone in high heels. When it actually causes someone pain to stand instead of sit, someone should definitely offer them a seat.</p>
<p>Same with guy friends offering me their jacket when it's cold. It's just a very nice gesture. Trying to make that kind of stuff into a "you must think I'm weak" thing is just sad. </p>
<p>Oh, but I do have one or two peeves about the nice gestures thing. I hate when I'm out with a guy and he practically runs me over to get the the door first. If you really want to hold the door for a girl, walk beside her and then go for the door...never walk behind her and then try to swoop in for it. That's just annoying and awkward. </p>
<p>And car doors...eh. I'm cool with a guy unlocking my door first if he doesn't have a clicky thing (though totally not necessary) or opening the door in the rare instances when we're in a full car and I'm stuck in the middle of the back and he's sitting beside me...or in a van with just one side door, that's ok...but it's just weird for me when a guy tries to open the passenger door for me. </p>
<p>Eek, sorry for this being so long.</p>