<p>OK, I've been trying (unsuccessfully) to flirt with girls by holding open doors for them. </p>
<p>I hold the door open until the girl has almost reached the door, and then I go. </p>
<p>But before I go, I make sure to look at the girl to see if she notices me. 99% of the time, however, the girl doesn't even look back at me - they are seemingly unaware of me, holding open the door :(.</p>
<p>Should I stick by the door longer and wait until she has walked through the door and say a quick "hello"? Or is that too much?</p>
<p>Whoever gets to the door first opens it, goes through then holds it open until the next person has a hand on it to keep it open for themselves and so on…
Not really a situation to capture a precious moment with someone.
Not as gallant as you believe, no girl is going to swoon over you holding the door.
You need more game than being a doorman.</p>
<p>It’s gets awkward when I’m waiting at the door for more than a couple seconds. But then, if you say I should wait until the person is right at the door, then OK, I’ll contemplate that :). </p>
<p>I personally don’t like it when guys hold open doors for me. I have a weird fear about entering a building first haha. But I do recognize their well breeding when it happens. I just smile and say thanks. </p>
<p>A tip: if you enter first, then extend your arm way back out to hold it open, it looks like you are exerting more effort than if you were standing outside the building just holding the door. </p>
<p>As said above, holding the door open isn’t going to get you all that far, just some appreciation. </p>
<p>Lots of girls are totally oblivious to everything and will just ignore you. Those girls aren’t worth it, IMO.</p>
<p>If she is so far behind you that it takes more than a few seconds of holding the door open, you shouldn’t have opened the door for her. She should open the door for herself if she’s more than a few seconds behind you.</p>
<p>Quite recently, I was only a couple steps behind a girl, and she opened the door, walked in, and gave the door a quarter-hearted nudge for me … ._.</p>
<p>alright this isnt going to work. while a nice gesture, it is something we associate more with dorrmen and our fathers. nothing is ever going to come of holding open a door for someone, whether you say hello or not. try this with a girl you are already friends with or know and then get going walking the same way and strike up a convo. that could work and be a low pressure, non awkward situation for everyone involved.</p>
<p>It’s a nice gesture, but won’t get you far with a stranger. I have creepy old men hold open the door for me, so when a guy my own age does it, although I don’t think it is creepy, I won’t think anything of it other than, “Oh, he’s nice.” It isn’t really a conversation starter.</p>
<p>I hate when a guy doesn’t hold a door for another guy. ( not what you are thinking,I mean like strangers * -.-) it just annoys me so much, like they only want to open doors for girls but still I hate when they just “slip” into the door like slime or some alien</p>
<p>I’m a girl and i think its cute and would definately catch my attention, esp if you smiled and said hi or smthing. BUT you aren’t gonna pick up any girls just by opening doors. get to know them in other situations too! And don’t do it more than 3 times with the same girl or elese she’ll think of you as the door creep.</p>
<p>I never thought about why I held open doors for people. I think I just learned it by example. But no one is honestly bothered by opening a door for themselves; they’re just bothered when someone in front of them doesn’t obey the custom of holding the door open for them.</p>
<p>Why have we adopted this custom if we don’t really care if doors are held open for us? It’s because we care about the thought obviously, the demonstration of care, not the state of the doors we walk through. </p>
<p>At least enough of us do that that practice is as widespread as it is. And even if you don’t care about showing/receiving care, you might still hold doors open for people because you do care about being perceived badly - which you might be if you don’t hold open the doors.</p>
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You might stick out more if you actually don’t hold open doors for girls. You might even try forcibly closing it behind you. And then when the girl walks through say - oh i’m sorry i didn’t see you, if I had I wouldn’t have slammed the door behind me, I would have held it open for you. Personally I was just trying to get out of the cold because I felt like an icecube out there, etc., etc… Or something like that (note that example would only work on cold days when you were entering a building. Alternatively when leaving a building you could claim to have been trying to escape the heat, or forget about the frustrating thing that happened inside.)</p>