<p>I'm a girl and as a Canadian living in China, almost zero guys open the door for me so when I went to summer school in Boston, I was very grateful that ppl did not let the door just slam in your face. I say thank you and smile every time. So at least one girl here likes guys behaving like gentleman...esp. since this girl is usually carrying tons of books around.</p>
<p>i think its so f reaking annoying when guys open the door for me. its like "what are you trying to prove??"
if i just happen to be behind a person who already has the door open, then yeah, keep it open till i get it behind you (which should be the case with a guy or girl). but going out of your way to open a door for a girl is redic.</p>
<p>Ah redic. I haven't heard that 'word' since my freshman year.</p>
<p>Ya I hold the door open for girls all the time...and guys. It's called being polite lol.</p>
<p>Katho, would you regularly give up your seat for a guy who has no special needs?</p>
<p>I do for guy friends sometimes and have offered for a few guys I didn't know before because they just looked uncomfortable. Usually they say it's ok and keep standing, though.</p>
<p>I hope they say that!</p>
<p>In my experience, the guys who don't always hold the door open for girls are usually more poised, genuinely confident, individualistic and seemingly intelligent. One would probably find a higher percentage of such guys at the top schools.</p>
<p>About the taking my seat thing? Cause if I offer, I really don't mind. I guess my guy friends are much more likely to take me up on my offer, but still.</p>
<p>
[quote]
In my experience, the guys who don't always hold the door open for girls are usually more poised, genuinely confident, individualistic and seemingly intelligent.
[/quote]
</p>
<p>Hm...I find that a little weird since my experience with guys is pretty much completely the opposite. </p>
<p>The thing I mentioned earlier about the Engineering guys being less likely to hold the door pretty much applies to the pricks in there that think they're so much smarter/better than everyone else. Especially a dumb little girl in Engineering <em>insert eye roll</em>. On the other hand, the guys that did do those nice little things are more sociable and generally good guys. </p>
<p>I dunno, but it may be a regional difference sort of thing because guys back home don't do those little things nearly as much...and that's only two and a half hours west of where I'm going to school, so yeah.</p>
<p>
[quote]
You are from the east coast aren't you ?
[/quote]
</p>
<p>What if I am, what if I'm not? What's that have to do with anything? Are you going to say this is some west-coast east-coast thing? "Our coast is teh superior to yours!" What is this, 1996? </p>
<p>As far as I know, the whole "wessside easside" thing is tired and dead, our new dividing line for America is whether or not you're a conservative or a liberal, just so you know.</p>
<p>Around here, it's usually the extremely and creepy ones who hold the door open for girls. Or those who don't belong to either group but succumb to peer pressure anyway because other guys are doing it and many of the girls expect it. Thus, I'm led to believe that either they don't have a mind of their own or aren't willing to listen to it. In my group, this is a non-issue. It's normal for a girl in our group to hold the door open for the rest of us and let us go first (but not all the time), just as it is normal for a guy to do the same. It really depends on our mood.</p>
<p>GatorEng, why?</p>
<p>You do realize that culture varies quite a bit in different regions of the US, right? Shoot, there's even a huge different between folks in East Texas and the folks in the rest of the state.</p>
<p>gianscolere1,</p>
<p>To me, it's awkward that a guy would take a girl's seat if she asked him. I wouldn't think much of him (this is assuming the two don't know each other). Maybe I'm just old-fashioned. :)</p>
<p>I guess I can see your point...but I still think if I offer a friend a seat (and he wants to sit down), he should take me up on the offer.</p>
<p>Of course I do, but Groenveld9's response leaves a lot to be desired. For starters, what exactly does he/she think is "wrong" with my post? Would've been nice to at least some idea, instead I'm limited to 8 asterisks and a vague geographical accusation.</p>
<p>Ah, I see.</p>
<p>Vail, i didn't mean to ignite a west-coast eastcoast tupac diddy conflict, merely to suggest that your views on this matter reflect the attitude of most people i have encountered on the east coast. I'm not even from the west coast lol.</p>
<p>My post seemed very hostile but the astericks make it look alot more aggressive than it was. It was merely a question followed by a controversial word.... which i have forgotten.</p>
<p>I find that mostly in the south, and surprisingly enough in Europe, chivalry lives on the the form of open doors for elderly or females(nothing sexist, on the contrary just common courtesy and being polite), offering seats and just asking if any assistance is needed when it seemingly is needed to whoever. I am a supporter of these actions and therefor was very shocked when you made a connection between a chivalrous action and rape.</p>
<p>Sorry this post is a bit long lol</p>
<p>People who go out of their way to hold the door just because it's a girl, but not for an elderly person or a guy who is carrying a lot of stuff, are probably being insecure about not being able to get a girl. Maybe they're the weak ones for being pushovers who need attention from random girls.</p>
<p>i disagree. since when is polite=hopeless ?</p>