Transfer issues

Transfer Students
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<p>Hi all! I need some opinions.</p>

<p>I go to university close to home (I commute) and it's nothing special or fun or exciting but I'm happy because I like being home with my family and boyfriend. Recently I decided that I wasn't in the right major and found a school with the perfect major for me, however this school is about 2 hours away from home. I've done all of the necessary transfer stuff but now I'm just becoming scared of the whole ordeal. </p>

<p>I don't want to go because I feel it may be hard to make a group of friends as a transferring sophomore, and without friends college is nothing. I'm not really that into partying at all (it's a big partying school), I would rather stay in and be comfy. I'm really tired all the time so I'm afraid I'll be bored because I won't want to go out that much. It's also a lot more expensive. Plus I will really miss home when I am alone because I am such a homebody, so I am afraid I will get sad and it will affect my studies. My boyfriend who commutes from home as well is also a big part of this, because we have been together for 4 years, and if I go, we aren't going to stay together (for many well thought out reasons we have discussed), which is super scary to me. I know you should never put your life on hold for someone, but I believe that he is important enough and we have a bright future, so I can't help but consider him when making my decision.</p>

<p>On the other hand, I do wanna go because this school has lots of great opportunities with the major I would be going into, along with it being something I truly love and wanna do for the rest of my life. It would also allow me to have the "college experience" and try new things. I have 2 friends from this school that could help me make more friends, so at least I know someone up there.</p>

<p>I know I would probably be happier going to college closer to home, but I also know it would probably be better for me to go away to be in this specific major.</p>

<p>I guess my question is, do I do what makes me happiest, which is being home with family, friends, boyfriend, etc... Or do I do what's better for me, which is going to a farther away college to major in something I love, risking becoming sad and homrsick? (Keep in mind this is the closest school to me that offers this unusual major)</p>

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<p>Do you plan on living with your family and being geographically close to your family for the rest of your life? At some point you’ll need to leave the nest and many people find the college is a good time to do that. You will probably get homesick and you probably will get sad sometimes, but that doesn’t mean that you still won’t love it. Making new friends is always hard whether you’re freshman, sophomore, or whatever, so if this school is something that you really want to do, then just have faith in the fact that you’ll be able to do it. Life is hard, but if you don’t always take the safe road then you’ll likely find some pretty amazing things.</p>

<p>I know you cannot see it now, but the boyfriend that you had in high school statistically speaking probably will not be the person you end up marrying. I’m not saying you should not take him into consideration while making this decision, I’m just saying that basing this decision on that relationship only lessons your options for your future, and he will probably not be in your future. If what you 2 have is really special and rare, then even if you break up when you go to school, you just may find your way back to one another down the road.</p>