<p>I've always had trouble seeing relationships and how so many marriages and bonds are fake, and so I always pursued the logical option of waiting, seeing as I'm only 15. This summer, I was on a program in Israel with people from New York (with me), France, and Israel, working together as counselors for half the day, and touring the land and spending time the other half. Upon meeting one particular French girl, I became very close, and the two of us became quite linked over the course of 2 and a half weeks. Albeit we're both quite young, I realized that this is the most ideal relationship. She's moderately pretty, but her personality is so unique, and leaving her yesterday has taken a toll I couldn't fathom previous to the leave. I know I'm young, and it's quite awkward to say this, but looking around me, I feel like this is the person I want to spend my life with. Naturally, everyone would assume I'm merely in love, but I am. And when I look around, every girl I see, even the stunning ones, are in black-and-white. They're all 2-D, superficial to me. I don't know what to do. To be honest, it seems like all the odds are against us. We're both remaining in Israel this month, so we might meet up, but our families are in two seperate places and each has their own agenda. I can't explain the feeling I have, but it's like an empty pit, or void, that just pulls me and tears me. I've had about 3 or 4 girlfriends before, and I understand how love works; this is certainly not heartbreak, or heartache. It is not a desire, since I'm not merely sexually attracted to her. Help, please! I don't know what to do, and have nobody to talk to! I just cry, and I'm generally a tough, logical person. I can't hold it back, and she's perpetually in my mind. I usually worry about my future often, and plan things, and integrating her into my future is a very pragmatic goal, but it seems like it will inevitable fail. I don't want to end up being with someone who's not like that. And she really is the one. I just love her soul, and her, not even her body or anything sexual. I can't explain the feeling! Seeing a beautiful girl in a bikini disgusts me further. I just .....</p>
<p>Do you have anyway of getting ahold of her…?</p>
<p>If not, then you should probably just move on. I know it sucks, but at 2.5 weeks, it’s probably not yet love- it’s more likely a deep lust and infatuation. No matter how much she feels like “the one”. </p>
<p>And do you know how she feels about you? I read that block of text a few times but I could’ve missed it…</p>
<p>awww. cute story.</p>
<p>Just tell her how you feel. i’m sure she feels the same way. Also try to take it easy. You’re stressing out way too much about this…which is unnecessary.</p>
<p>If that works out then you should discuss with her how you two can communicate through long distance relationship.</p>
<p>good luck!</p>
<p>pics or it didnt happen</p>
<p>Like I siad, no lust whatsoever. It’s not sexual attraction. And whenever I see a girl who would normally be “sexually pleasing”, which usually doesn’t faze me, I am turned off, since they are all 2-D to me, if you will excuse the colloquial phrasing. I understand it is hard to comprehend the feeling, and I am clearly lacking my usual logic to convey the situation in the most correct way.</p>
<p>^ No. I understand the feeling, please don’t get me wrong. I fell in love at 15 and am now engaged to that person. Don’t make it seem like I don’t understand what you’re saying. HOWEVER, lust does not have to merely be sexual, contrary to popular and religious beliefs. Lust can also just be a craving for that person- not necessarily a sexual craving. 2.5 weeks is simply not enough time to say whether or not you are truly in love with a person because it is logistically not enough time to see various aspects of that person’s personality. You never got past the infatuation point of a relationship. </p>
<p>So I ask AGAIN (I dislike being ignored when I give advice and someone asks for it)- do you have ANY way of getting ahold of her? And I apologize again if it was in that massive rambling block of text and I missed it.</p>
<p>Fair enough. Thanks for the advice. That is quite interesting. Can you share how you managed to do it? The issue is currently the language barrier, which is overcome easily as we are in love and linked, but I am afraid she will drift away. I have a way, she is still in Israel, but as I said we will probably only meet once or twice. I apologize.</p>
<p>in a similar situation as you, i met a girl over the summer who did the same to me as your girl did to you, and i by no means plan on giving her up after she goes back home (granted its not France and NYC, but still…). I think as long as you two are genuinely interested in each other enough so that you BOTH WANT to try, its not worth ending it. and i stress the capitalized words.</p>
<p>but at the same time, you said you’re 15; sadly, you can’t really say “oh next year we’ll be in college so it’ll all be better”, so another way to go about it would be to just remain friends and such, so you’ll be able to live your own life but she would still be a part of it</p>
<p>I second pics.</p>
<p>And are you french?</p>
<p>And how well did you know her. You can easily fall for someone you think you know, but when you dig deeper you find their flaws, whatever they might be. I don’t think you can ever find someone “perfect” but if she truly is near perfect (you’d have to know her for more than 2 weeks) then keep in touch</p>
<p>pix and then we’ll see if she’s worth it ;)</p>
<p>It will end up like that recent Rom Com starring Amanda Seyfried, you’ll meet up again when your 70.</p>
<p>You really only have two choices right now. 1.) Do not contact her. 2.) Contact her. If she feels similarly, you can stay in touch via email, skype, phone, etc. I mean, you two would have to decide whether such a long-distance relationship would work out. But if you didn’t want such a relationship, you could keep in contact, and if you both continue to feel as such for the other, arrange to meet a few more times. But, again, right now you can contact her or not, I don’t see many more options than that.</p>