Too attached, and too young?!

<p>I've always had trouble seeing relationships and how so many marriages and bonds are fake, and so I always pursued the logical option of waiting, seeing as I'm only 15. This summer, I was on a program in Israel with people from New York (with me), France, and Israel, working together as counselors for half the day, and touring the land and spending time the other half. Upon meeting one particular French girl, I became very close, and the two of us became quite linked over the course of 2 and a half weeks. Albeit we're both quite young, I realized that this is the most ideal relationship. She's moderately pretty, but her personality is so unique, and leaving her yesterday has taken a toll I couldn't fathom previous to the leave. I know I'm young, and it's quite awkward to say this, but looking around me, I feel like this is the person I want to spend my life with. Naturally, everyone would assume I'm merely in love, but I am. And when I look around, every girl I see, even the stunning ones, are in black-and-white. They're all 2-D, superficial to me. I don't know what to do. To be honest, it seems like all the odds are against us. We're both remaining in Israel this month, so we might meet up, but our families are in two seperate places and each has their own agenda. I can't explain the feeling I have, but it's like an empty pit, or void, that just pulls me and tears me. I've had about 3 or 4 girlfriends before, and I understand how love works; this is certainly not heartbreak, or heartache. It is not a desire, since I'm not merely sexually attracted to her. Help, please! I don't know what to do, and have nobody to talk to! I just cry, and I'm generally a tough, logical person. I can't hold it back, and she's perpetually in my mind. I usually worry about my future often, and plan things, and integrating her into my future is a very pragmatic goal, but it seems like it will inevitable fail. I don't want to end up being with someone who's not like that. And she really is the one. I just love her soul, and her, not even her body or anything sexual. I can't explain the feeling! Seeing a beautiful girl in a bikini disgusts me further. I just .....</p>

<p>I have no advice, but I read every word and I wish you luck.</p>

<p>Jacobtess, I think you need to talk to your friends and family. This is a bit off topic for cc.</p>

<p>In the past, people wrote letters to each other until they could be together. When you are an adult, maybe you can move to her county or she may move to yours. Until, be thankful for the internet and Skype.</p>

<p>True…I wish someone could understand this feeling though…</p>

<p>We all understand what you are feeling. Honestly, we were all young once and really do understand this situation.</p>

<p>However, reality has to be dealt with and so, for this reason, I suggest that for NOW, you plan to write letters and chat via the internet. Then see what the future holds for you.</p>

<p>About the age of the protagonists in Romeo and Juliet. I’m guessing almost all of us understand this well.
Because of the community I grew up in, and the fact that I attended a single sex school, I never had such an experience. However, my spouse did.
We have had decades of married life and some kids together, and my spouse wishes in intimate ways wishes that it was only with me.
However, I have never heard the words “You are the love of my life”. I think of that early relationship. It may well be that the lack of words are some kind of rhetorical oversight on my spouse’s part. But I am resigned to the idea that it isn’t, and respect fully the power of early love.
Be aware that the odds are that this individual will not end up being your life partner.
Best of luck.
To the moderator, of course this doesn’t have much to do with college. But I would let it run under some heading if it seems productive.
PS, I love the word “fake”. My 14 year old daughter’s favorite after reading “Catcher In The Rye”!
PPS, I’d recommend Zeffirelli’s “Romeo and Juliet” for affirmation, if it’s not too painful.</p>

<p>seeing that you are young… yes, you two at your current age may be soul mates. However, as you and her both get older you will see a change. Both of you will develop into adults. Your view on life will change. So will hers. Your interests may change too. You and her, in all honesty, will most likely grow apart. And that’s good. Really, it is. Imagine if you had the same perspective on life as you did when you were five years old. Your biggest conflict in life would be the broccoli on your plate, in which your mother is making you eat before you can get a cookie. Yuck. Who would want to be a boring ol’ five-year-old their entire life? Have adventures (it sounds like you did/do) and explore your youth. Don’t even think about settling down. You’re in love, but love isn’t everything. Just like a cookie isn’t everything. You have to move on, and you will. </p>

<p>ANYWAY, you write beautifully. Enough to make me jealous–just thought I’d throw that out there.</p>