<p>My daughter lives in the same house and I hardly see her!!! :-)</p>
<p>Thank heaven for text messaging, saintfan.</p>
<p>Yes, absweetmarie and to OP who hasn’t heard my texting saga - my D is way more lovey-dovey and communicative when she is out of town without me for sports, etc. Others on this thread have noted this as well. If I want texts from D that say more than “done pic out back” I need to send her across the country, then I get the ((((<3 xoxoxo <3)))) action.</p>
<p>Change can be very scary, we all understand that. The best thing you can do to ease your uncertainty is to really research Elon and its surrounding area. Pour over the school’s website, check out the parent resources, learn about the region and see why your D fell in love with the school. Becoming familiar with Elon will help you get excited about all the wonderful experiences and opportunities that await. Don’t focus on what you feel YOU will be losing, but rather focus on all SHE will be gaining. This is an exciting time for your D and your family, share in that excitement. Physical distance does not have to equal emotional distance. My kids all went 1500+ miles away and H and I feel as connected to them as ever. </p>
<p>Seeing your child grow and spread his/her wings is nerve wracking but so very rewarding. Don’t be afraid to let her fly. Good luck.</p>
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<p>Yes…and you and your husband should discuss how you can SUPPORT your daughter’s decision TOGETHER…to accept the offer of acceptance at the college of her choice.</p>
<p>Remember…it’s the DAUGHTER who is going to college, not you. There actually could be things she sees about Elon that are VERY attractive that you, the parents, might not like. She is going to college…not you.</p>
<p>Lafalum: love your posts…ditto on all counts…</p>
<p>Saintfan: the joke in our house is that our older D didn’t speak to us all through HS and now as a college senior does not go a day without calling or texting…</p>
<p>I cannot emphasize to the OP enough; it does not feel like our D2 is really 8 hours away…absolutely no difference with D1 who is 3.5 hours away…</p>
<p>I have friends whose kids are 2 hours away that never see or talk to their kids on a regular basis; it is all about the kid, not the distance…</p>
<p>I also know a kid who was living on campus 15 miles from her house and couldn’t handle it; had never been away from home…totally homesick…</p>
<p>We don’t know anything about your daughter (even though both you and your husband have reached out to us)</p>
<p>Repeat to yourself over and over again: this is about her, not you…</p>
<p>Why would you let her apply to schools you won’t let her attend?</p>
<p>Re: the whole Illinois public school thing, given the difficulty and expense of getting into U of I, it seems like a huge majority of our high school students end up at ISU. There is really a lot to be said for the growth experienced when you are not going to college with a whole group of people you already know.</p>
<p>OP - I have twins; one is about 45 minutes away, the other is halfway across the country. Yes, it’s logistically easier for the one who is 45 minutes away, as it’s a car ride home for the holidays versus a plane ride. But aside from that - they’re both on their own. They are doing their own thing. I am not managing their day-to-day schedules. They are figuring out what needs to be done on their own. That’s the same thing regardless of how physically far away they are from me.</p>
<p>I personally think getting an undergrad degree in something you love and then going to get your teaching certificate afterwards is a good way to go. I know that’s how I did it. I also know 2 cases where friends’ kids went to a certain school only to get a degree in education and then decided they didn’t want to ‘waste their classes’ and plan to get it afterwards. Yes, it will cost more but it is something to consider - you send her to ISU, she either doesn’t like the education classes or doesn’t want to waste her time on them and she’s missed this opportunity at Elon.</p>
<p><strong>roots and wings</strong></p>
<p>I am hoping my kids go out of state, IL is going down the financial tubes fast.
Who knows what will be going on here in a couple years…</p>