<p>OK, I've made a post in the past about how my girlfriend got clingy after we first had sex. After that post, I did talk to her about it, and I tried to tell her she had nothing to worry about. She said she was sorry for acting like she didn't trust me, and she would <em>try</em> not to be so suspicious (keyword being try). </p>
<p>But now, things seem to be unraveling between us.</p>
<p>I had a my final, uh, Final on Friday. Me and this other girl in my test finished around the same time and we were talking about it outside the classroom. We didn't talk but for maybe five minutes. She was about to walk away, and some money fell out of her jacket. I snatched it up and called after her to give it back. She took it, said thanks, and left.</p>
<p>No big deal, right?</p>
<p>So my girlfriend calls me Friday and tells me that she has something to tell me...which is never good. She told me she was late. Yeah, late.</p>
<p>I got freaked out. I think I held the phone for like five minutes before I said anything. I asked her how long had she been late (I know that's probably a weird question but I don't know how menstrual cycles work) and when is she going to take a pregnancy test or go to the doctor. She told me to calm down, and that it could be nothing (since we use protection), but she wanted to let me know.</p>
<p>So I've been freaked out all weekend.</p>
<p>To make matters worse, we got into this heated argument a few hours ago because apparently her friend told her she saw me talking to another girl. She got mad and said she could be pregnant and I'm talking to other girls. I asked her what the f*** was wrong with her (which isn't something I do...curse at girls). She started crying and said she's scared and I told her I was too and...ugh. We hung up on semi-bad terms. She said she was going to bed; I said I'd do the same. But who am I kidding? I can't sleep.</p>
<p>yeah man she's a nut case. first of all women are late a lot of times. and if she was mature about it she wouldnt tell you jack till she knew for sure. and if she won't let you even talk to another girl and uses the "possible pregancy" leverage (which is bs probably), you're headed for trouble. hell she might try to get herself pregnant on purpose so you'll be joined for life.</p>
<p>eventually you're going to have to dump her, sooner the better for you.</p>
<p>First of all, she's probably late because of stress or another factor - if you used protection correctly, the chances of pregnancy are low. A lot of people who have sex regularly will encounter the missed-period horror scenario at least once. It's terrible, but if you can deal with the agony of a few days' wait it usually resolves itself. Women's bodies are very odd like that. </p>
<p>The fact that you went and stuck it into a girl who seems to have the maturity level of a 15-year-old? That could be an issue. However I would give her a pass this once, because if she really does think she's pregnant than she can be forgiven for acting like that. But pay attention, because you don't want a jealous, clingy girlfriend on your ends. Specially not if she yo babymomma.</p>
<p>It sounds like the relationship is not working out. If she is not pregnant then it may be advisable to break up with her. If she is pregnant than you need to suck it up and act like an adult; if she is pregnant and you break up with her knowing that, well, you know where I'm going with this...</p>
<p>If she suspects she's preggers, why the f hasn't she taken a preg. test by this point?! You said you've been freaking out all weekend. A weekend??? She should have checked by this point. </p>
<p>I can't say I feel sorry for you. You knew the risks when you decided to sleep with her. Grow up a little and take responsibility for your actions.</p>
<p>You need to break up with this girl. This is no good. She has BIIIGGG issues. Hopefully she is not pregnant (if she is you already have an adoptive father, up there^^^) but seriously, this is PCSHO.</p>
<p>Your girlfriend sounds crazy. Not like she's a psycho or so different from most girls, but she's just not showing good signs at all. If she is not pregnant, dump her.
And you have learned a valuable lesson:</p>
<p>I think that you need to have a long, good talk with your girlfriend. I don't know whether she's really emotionally unstable or is just at a vulnerable time in her life right now. As her boyfriend, you need to be supportive of what she is going through. Talk to her about what she's scared about. Apologize for swearing at her. Just listen to her talk. Then you can talk about how you feel about not being trusted, and how it's putting a negative spin on your relationship with her. I mean, you started dating her for a reason, right?</p>
<p>Have you considered why she may be getting jealous? Perhaps you do have a tendency to flirt with other girls and not know it? I know I had an ex who would always flirt with, hug, and sometimes even touch my friends, and it really got to me. Either that, or my guess is that her stress is being carried over to your relationship with her.</p>
<p>Maybe you two should go out and do something fun to blow off some steam. Arguing and worrying around her causes you to condition yourself to feel negatively around her, but doing something fun will remind you of why you want to date her.</p>
<p>If you really do want to date her, that is.</p>
<p>Sounds like you got yo'self screwed... (sorry)</p>
<p>Anyway... to me, her responses seem pretty normal for someone at a high stress point in time (i.e., finals) after trying something new (sex), thinking she may have gotten pregnant (another major stressor) and then hearing from a friend that you were flirting around (not that you were, but if that's the interpretation her friend gave her, she's bound to freak out -- especially if your relationship with her is not closer than her relationship with her girl-friend). You can call it what you like, but the fact is she's attributing her late period to possibly being pregnant and then responding to the fact that she heard something about you possibly cheating on her.
If she does this all the time, then that's one thing, but if this is a one-time thing, then you should just chalk it up to her being under a lot of stress. It's also quite possible that you were under a lot of stress when you talked with her and actually exacerbated the problem instead of calming her down about it...just something to consider!</p>
<p>haha...people here <em>can</em> give personal advice...couples therapy may not be necessary. The biggest issue I saw in the OP's post was a tendency on both sides to not take the other person's reality into account. Many marital relationships struggle (and often end) for just that reason. If the OP makes an effort to see things from her side (and she eventually begins to reciprocate), their relationship should be find. They're coping through difficult circumstances right now.</p>
<p>she might not be pregnant. how late is she? some women's cycle can take up to 37, 38 days. count the first day of her last period until now, and see how many days it has been. for some women, their first time can delay their period.</p>