<p>I know it's pathetic that I'm using a college forum for advice, but trust me, I'm that desperate. Anyways, the story is, my girlfriend is completely ignoring me. She doesn't like talking about it, and the only reason she gives me is that she doesn't feel comfortable around me anymore...for no apparent reason. She claims that it's all her, and that she's crazy when it comes to relationships. As shallow as it seems, it really does hurt me...because I like her so much. Anyone that can offer advice is appreciated...espeically girls, since I have no idea what goes on in your heads.</p>
<p>She might just need space. Are you together with her often? Try giving her some time alone and maybe she will come around and be comfortable with you again.</p>
<p>Maybe...she's an odd one for sure.</p>
<p>Lets see You really didnt give enough info to make a sure analysis, but its very possible she just wants space like Legendofmax said. She could also just be tired of the relationship and wants to move on. Another thing to consider I took a quick look at your past posts and it appears that you live in Indiana and will attend Cornell in the fall. Where is she going? Maybe she doesnt want to have a LDR and would rather just go ahead and end it now. Maybe you're Cornell material and she's not? That could make her feel inferior and thus uncomfortable. At any rate, it looks like she certainly needs to work on her communication skills!</p>
<p>Funny, because she will be a communications major at DePauw.</p>
<p>Anyways, last time I checked she still liked me. This is the first time she's been in a relationship, and I think she's freaking herself out. She doesn't like the idea of having obligations, and feeling responsible for whenever I'm upset, etc. It started out great...everyone thought she had changed and gotten over her fears, but I guess it's starting to come back, and she's going into her shell again.</p>
<p>Just buy her fowers and a card....that usually work wonders with girls.....</p>
<p>My first instinct was to tell you to break up with her before you end up getting hurt...but i dunno...girls are complicated...I've gone through something ALMOST like this before...ish...not totally, but if you two really care about eachother, then it'll work out....try talking to her less, act like yourself..don't act like you think something's wrong....hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst....has something happened recently?...like some kind of conflict between you two, or have you started doing things with eachother that you hadn't before?..has anything just been different?...if you can evaluate, we might be able to help you a little bit.</p>
<p>She's dumping you, but (being how it's her first relationship) she doesn't know how to go about it - no "if's," "and's," or "but's" about it.</p>
<p>In a twist of ironic fate, she broke up with me about three hours ago...I've never been so upset in my life, waterworks, etc. She says that she wants to be comfortable around me again, and that she wants to be good friends again. We'll see...thanks for all the support, guys.</p>
<p>told ya...</p>
<p>Sorry to hear about that, PerfectFourth. I'm sure you'll meet somebody great at Cornell.</p>
<p>Ah, Maize ... Ever the "compassionate conservative ..."</p>
<p>sorry bout that.</p>
<p>atleast Maize didn't beat around the bush...</p>
<p>You will meet someone else. Most high school relationships weren't meant to last!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You'll feel better soon.</p>
<p>I'm truly sorry, PerfectFourth. But keep in mind that you have the rest of the summer to relax and Cornell to look forward to in the fall.</p>
<p>I wrote a poem for my friend when his girlfriend of a year broke up with him. It sounds silly but I hope it helps.</p>
<p>Intrinsic Vehemence</p>
<p>If I could
I would </p>
<p>Take the pain away
And bleach clean the gray
I would chase away the demons in your head
And fill it with bliss instead </p>
<p>I would scream out the anger you feel
And soothe your shattered heart and heal </p>
<p>I would give you my blood and sweat and bare my soul
And if its fear I unfold, its your hand Ill hold </p>
<p>I would revive your hope and faith if they were about to die
And if u push me away at first, I wont b pushed away at 2nd try </p>
<p>I would break off pieces of my soul if itd stop your hurt
And it youre 2 far away Id overnight it 2 thousand miles apart </p>
<p>I would
If I could </p>
<p>I would give my tears, all the healing liquid in me that remains
And if your demons made you reject it, Id inject it str8 2 your veins </p>
<p>U might think I say this
Halfhearted, and only because its impossible to kiss
Away so much pain </p>
<p>I know that I can never slay away this much pain
And I cant protect you from this much rain </p>
<p>But I can write a poem with words & emotions
And bury my soul in it
And if you, for a second, doubt it, let me reassure you
Love is infinite</p>
<p>"Cornell to look forward to in the fall"</p>
<p>Cornell=more pain (academic pain)</p>
<p>i know i have been late to give you the advise, but anywayz, i hqave been on her steps. Im sure your girl have some feelings for someone else, and the moments she was quiet with you, is cuz she was confused. The reason might be, is that she didnt had any relationship experience, and she wants to learn more, especially if yall dont do enough around. For instance, yall dont go out much, or dont talk that much, or else you might have rush your relationship, and she feels overwhelmed, frustrated, and she needed space. I will post and email i have received a while ago, of course it is not for me, cus im a girl, but after readiong it, I do totally have agreed with him. I know cuz im a girl.</p>
<p>Cornell: best of luck in the coming months. You won't believe me now, but you'll completely realize that I'm right in a year... but the relationship would not have lasted once you went off to school. For the first semester, everyone's friends and significant others are at home. Once you go home for Christmas break, you realize that your life is at school - and people break up with their significant others and start dating people at college. </p>
<p>Again, good luck. :)</p>
<p>lies lies lies...all lies!....my girlfriend and i were away from eachother during the school-year...she was here and i was in blacksburg, and we made it just fine...doing just as good as we were if not better.</p>
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