<p>So I just started college (I go to SUNY Binghamton if anyone has heard of it), and I am seriously not having a good time. I don't expect to be partying all the time or anything, but I at least want to make a few nice friends, but sadly that hasn't happened yet. The only person that'll talk to me is my roommate, and even she will only talk to me when it's about necessary stuff, like, "Hey, have you seen my flat iron?" or something like that. I'm not an antisocial person, I actually have gone out of my way to meet people. I've went to events, made small talk with people in the residence, halls, ect. but no one seems to be interested. Most of the people I've met here are extremely snobby kids from Long Island and New Jersey.. I'm actually from Long Island myself, but don't fit into the typical stereotype of a jappy LI girl.
Anyway, I'm just really unhappy here, and find myself getting homesick a lot because I'm not making friends and because of the fact that I'm about 200 miles away from home. I guess should've expected to be with a homogenous crowd going into a SUNY school, but I guess I was so swayed with Bing's outstanding academics that the terrible social life didn't concern me until I got here. Seriously, the only thing people do on weekends is go to frat parties and act like idiots. I'm not into partying, so I don't go. I know parties are a good place to meet people, but, like I said, I'm really not into parties. I'm just more of a low key person, I guess. And sadly I haven't found anyone here who shares my interests. Like I said, the only things people do on the weekends are go downtown to frat parties, or you'll find a group of hardcore engineering and pre med packed up in the library. I like to have fun on the weekends, but not wild party type fun. My idea of "fun" I guess is just hanging out and watching TV, or maybe going to the mall or something.
So yes, I know I should stick it out a little longer, but I feel like if I'm not happy by the end of September, then I should look into transferring. Now my question is: would it be crazy to transfer after one semester? Is it a hard thing to do? In terms of transfer schools, I'm looking into SUNY Purchase, CUNY Hunter, CUNY Baruch, Stony Brook, and Fordham. Fordham is probably my number 1 choice, but I'm just not sure how hard it is to get into as a transfer. I'm also concerned about housing and stuff, cause I know transfer housing isn't guaranteed for Fordham students, so it's best to get an early start on it.
I'm sorry if this just turned into an annoying rant about how much I hate college, but I guess what I'm trying to ask is if it would be crazy to transfer after the first semester and what the process is for transferring. Answers appreciated, thank you.</p>
<p>Give it a full year. You have only been there a week. You have barely been to classes (if at all). Clubs aren’t in full swing. If you have a job, you haven’t spent much time at it. If you still want to transfer after winter break, fill out applications for next fall. Worst case, spend your freshman year getting great grades so you have good transfer options for next year if you decide to, and strong standing in your class & major if you don’t transfer. One week just isn’t enough time to meet a lot of people and find your niche.</p>
<p>At the rate I’m going, I don’t know if I’ll be able to stick it out a full year. I can’t stand being this depressed, it’s making me sick. Maybe it’ll get better, but if it doesn’t, would it be crazy to switch after one semester? Like I said, I’m very depressed and when I get depressed I usually lose an unhealthy amount of weight. Idk what to do…</p>
<p>It’s not likely. I don’t know anything about Fordham’s stats, but Stony Brooks applicants are competitive. Looks like they admit about 40% of transfer applicants, and they don’t specify a minimum credit requirement, but with just one semester they won’t have a lot to go on. Your high school stats will be most important.</p>
<p>Not to brag, but I got into Stony Brook in high school with a $10,000 merit scholarship. Does that make it likely though for me to get in as a transfer?</p>
<p>What other colleges did you get into? Applying at schools that you’ve already been accepted would be your best bet. Sometimes they will accept your initial financial aid package if you transfer after the first semester.</p>
<p>@MOMINWIS I got into UConn, Delaware, F&M, Drexel, and URI. I got merit aid from all of them except for F&M. But idk if I’m really interested in those schools, honestly. I’d rather go to school in NYC, so my first choice is Fordham. I’m just not sure how hard it is to get into as a transfer student. And I’m not even bothering applying to NYU or Columbia cause I know they’re like impossible to get into. If it helps, here are my HS stats: 3.6 Unweighted GPA, 3.8 Weighted, 33 on the ACT, did a couple of AP’s but not a lot, and had decent EC’s. And my major is undecided.</p>
<p>Honestly, your chances for Fordham and NYU will be better as a fall transfer. Your stats are quite good. Hang in there and don’t let your first semester grades suffer.</p>
<p>@MOMINWIS just curious, why would my chances be better as a fall transfer? would it be that bad to apply as a spring transfer? like what’s the difference</p>
<p>The point of my questions was that if you had applied and been accepted to a school that you want to now transfer to, it may be viewed by their admissions dept. that you considered the school previously but made the wrong choice. By applying to new schools for transfer (esp. after only a few weeks) it shows a lack of commitment which will likely turn off some admissions people.</p>
<p>Take a deep breath. Before you give up on Binghamton completely, I’d join a few clubs/activities that you find interesting because it may be a way to meet people you click with. </p>
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Are you really kvetching about lacking connections before school starts? 3 days in?</p>
<p>Any update for us? Has it gotten any better? How are your classes? I’d say identify a few potential transfer schools … just in case. See if they accept Spring transfers and what the deadlines and requirements are. Also note deadlines for Fall transfers. Do your homework on this now, even if you end up staying at Binghamton. You’ll feel better just knowing that you’re looking into options. Maybe once clubs / classes start you’ll feel better. I agree with others that say your best bet for Spring transfers that you initially got into - be honest: I made a mistake. </p>
<p>Two of my best friends, two other friends, and my boyfriend all go to SUNY Binghamton. They are all really nice and cool people, most of whom seldom party if at all. As has previously been stated, you’ve only just gotten there. Join some clubs. You will meet many like-minded, awesome, intelligent people there. I’ve visited on many occasions and have only had the best of impressions toward all the people and activities there. No matter where you go, there are going to be people who want to party and there are going to be people who want to hang out and watch TV. You really just have to give yourself time to meet everyone and find your niche. Good luck and have fun!!</p>