<p>I hate it here! Everyone here is from a small town, pretty conceited, and super closed minded. All they're interested in is talking about Friday night. Nobody has any idea about whats going on in the world, or even in the rest of America. Reading books to them is like tasting the ickiest medicine ever and they study to get the minimum grades. Not to learn. </p>
<p>Its a really small school so I've really tried branching out and meeting new people. I've met a handful of people who are more like me (all of whom are "misfits"), though ive messed up those friendships, or they've graduated/transferred.</p>
<p>Transferring is a horrible option just because I'm in an amazing spot academic/extracurricular wise. But eating lunch alone (in the library because I've given up on making good friends), and not having anyone to talk to in person sucks. (I still talk to my friends from back home probably more than I talk to people here hahaaa. </p>
<p>Anyone been through the same thing? I'm also a junior hahaa.</p>
<p>I’m not thrilled with the social scene at my school, but it doesn’t sound nearly as bad as you. I’ve made plenty of friends, but they all seem to be of a certain type that I am not- ie very into partying, not “nerdy,” not really interested in the same sort of leisure activities I am. Similarly to you, though, I would probably be at least considering transferring if my academic situation wasn’t so good. It is, though, which puts me in a rather weird situation. I’m definitely grateful for the education I’m getting, but I’m hoping that I can find more friends with interests more in line with what I enjoy, and I wish the same to you. Best of luck!</p>
<p>Haha yeah I woulda transferred looonnggg ago for sure if not for the fact that I’m in such a good position with everything but socially. Oh well. Tbh i probs wont find good friends while I’m here, so I’ll just suck it up, put the time into working hard, and make friends once I’m out of this place.</p>
<p>i feel the pain, i have also given up. most of the people at my school became friends at orientation and they kept close, i missed it. even tho i dorm, i eat in my room all the time. my roommate and i are cool but we never did anything together. i just play music and do my bedroom dj mixes. and i do talk to the poeple back home more than i do at college. i do have friends but they leave on the weekends and my roommate is pretty social towards others, even parties without, never asks if i wanna go, but its cool im a preety chill dude so i dont mind the missing fun aspect. but i am leaving next year.</p>
<p>i hate my college too, and sadly enough, it was my top choice. i go to a small liberal arts, women’s college in the Northeast where the girls are so unfriendly and cliquey. like the OP, i talk to my best friends from high school more than i talk to anyone here. i have one friend at this entire college and we don’t even have anything in common. there are many days where i go without talking to ANYONE all day. i eat all of my meals alone. i miss high school so much, where i felt comfortable (relatively) and had a few great friends. here it is cold, small, isolated, and there is a huge emphasis on academics, which i can’t even say i’m that impressed by since my classes thus far have been sub-par. i can’t wait to get out of here and transfer to a big, state university where people are down-to-earth and friendly. a social scene wouldn’t hurt either. i’m glad that this thread exists because its nice to know i’m not the only one who feels so alone and unhappy.</p>
<p>I’m a math major and most people in my clases have no desire to talk to others and many of them are international students. I joined a few organizations on campus and it feels like everyone in them is very nice. I suggest joining an organization if you want to make friends, maybe a cultural organization in specific is easier to make friends in. Even if you are not of the culture of the organization you join, that is fine and you can still easily make friends.</p>
<p>Haha wow. Its nice to hear some people can relate. And I’m on the east coast too haha!
Though I have to say, I dont know what I would have done without my support system from back home. And I’m kind of wishing I did transfer considering that the academic system is probably going to crash next year with half the staff leaving (Yes, its that small a school).</p>
<p>Oh well. Gotta suck it up I guess and stick it out for another year. :/.</p>
<p>EDIT: And I’m pretty involved in different organizations on campus, and thats how I met a lot of people I know. But I’ve realized that the number of people that actually have the same mindset as me is so few here, that that probably wouldnt help.
Makes me wonder why i had this school as my first choice…</p>
<p>I hear you. I am at a CC in a small hick town in a state I did not grow up in. It is torture, every day I am here. I tend to hide in corners of the library, and study or procrastinate on my iPad. The weekends I spend home alone doing next to nothing because there are basically no students at the college worth my time. Anytime I do get into a convo with one? They start complaining about how their ENG101 teacher is “so unfair” and how they are only in the developmental math class so they can get their Pell grant check…</p>
<p>Just do what I do. Find a way to survive for a couple more years!</p>
<p>wait I’m also on the east coast! I got to a school in Washington DC, and I’ve had the same problems as Bluetruedreams. Not only have I changed my mind about my major, but people love the academics here and so far what I’ve been learning is the same exact stuff that I did back in HS, so nothing new. It’s a liberal arts school so I’m excited to transfer to a nice large state school where people main focus is debating various political topics! </p>
<p>To the OP you totally got this! you were able to make it this far and you’ll be able to finish the last year!</p>
<p>I haven’t had this problem but I’m at a Big Ten University and if the social circle you run with doesn’t work out, there are literally tens of thousands of other people to meet through craft nights, bowling nights, movie nights, etc. It’s hard to NOT make friends here.
Stick through it!</p>
<p>That sounds awful and is exactly the reason why I chose to go to a large university. On the bright side, you only have one more year left so if you made it this far…</p>
<p>How is it that you “messed up” the relationships you found with people of similar interests? If it’s a pattern you might want to see if there’s something you’re doing that turns people off as well.</p>
<p>I’m sorry the social scene is not working for you. Is it possible to volunteer in your community or church or school. Perhaps you would meet people of similar interests. Also sometimes many students eat alone due to their class schedules. Is it possible join a special interest group or language table or brown bag lunch lecture? I hope over time, things will improve socially because everything else seems good at you school.</p>
<p>I hate mine too. No college town, no coffee shops, nowhere really to just hangout and relax and talk. I think I made a huge mistake in choosing my school; I’m really more of a humanities person and few, if any, of classmates seem to read much (never see anyone reading like before and waiting for class) and have trouble finding ‘cultural’ people. Oh well</p>
<p>@cortana431, wait yeah! my friend goes to your school (if that’s the one your talking about in your location) and I thought it was more of a tech school?</p>
