Transferring into a college not as a freshman ruin social life? please help

<p>I might have to go to a community college for the first year or so and then transfer into a regular college because of credit problems and grades.</p>

<p>If I transfer into a college not as a freshman, will it make my social life miserable? I had to swiftch highschools as a senior from a school district that I was in sense middle school to a new district where I don't know anybody. I am so lonely and miserable right now because I don't know anyone and basically have no friends. Everyone already has their own little groups and I feel like an outcast...</p>

<p>Ever sense I have changed my attitude towards life and stopped being that psedo intellectual cynic loner type and have been getting good grades at high school, one of my dreams was to have a great time at a college to make up for a lot of wasted teen years where I wasn't having any fun. People say college can be the best time of your life. I am worried that I have screwed over my youth and will never get the chance to live fully because after college you are expected to mature a little and settel down.</p>

<p>Do you know any community college kids at your college? What is there social life like?</p>

<p>Is it as easy as it would be a freshman? No. You’ll have to work your ass off and really put yourself out there and make an effort to make friends, but it’s definitely not impossible. I wouldn’t worry too much about it man. Just focus on your studies.</p>

<p>And no offense, but I had a hard time understanding you.</p>

<p>I transferred as a junior, having attended community college for two years. In terms of social life, my years at CC were pretty miserable. I did meet my boyfriend then but that was about all I had going for me. My first year at university was pretty discouraging, but it was more because my expectations were unrealistic than any real problem with my social life. You cannot expect it to be exactly the same as it would be if you had entered as a freshmen. There is much less set up for you to help you make friends and you will miss out on the stage where everyone else your age is desperate for friends and really, really outgoing-- although if you are transferring as a sophomore you may fit more seamlessly with the freshmen the year you transfer than I did as a junior. So you may not meet what seems like a bunch of really close friends right out of the gate-- but frankly, many if not most freshmen dont get that either, it just looks like it. You will have to be proactive and outgoing but you should do fine as long as the university you choose to transfer to after community college is a good fit for you socially. I did make a lot of friends my first year and this year they are even better friends and I am meeting even more people. I am quite satisfied.</p>

<p>As for other community college kids at my college, I only know two. One transferred as a sophomore, but this is her first year and it’s too early to tell how she’s doing, though she seemed to relate to a lot of what I had to say about my own experience. I think she joined a sorority or something. The other I think is a bit of a loner, but that seems to be primarily by choice. She sees friends from home a lot and doesn’t seem to branch out much, she never seems to have other plans when I ask her to hang out. You do have to put an effort into it, friends won’t just fall into your lap.</p>

<p>So, in short, no it will not ruin your social life, however there will be times where you may feel discouraged and it is important to keep trying and to be proactive about meeting people and keeping in contact with the acquaintances you make.</p>