Transformation (Girls please, but Guys DEFINITELY welcome too)

<p>One thing I do when I'm a new school, I ask help or questions for things I don't understand or things completely different from what I'm used to. I try not to ask in such a way that seems like I'm "stupid" or whatever, (and I don't try to ask ppl who have a real superiority complex when it comes to academics), but that kinda helps ease the way in. Especially in English/Literature classes. And I also try not to diss the school. :) Kids mayn't like the school, but they don't usually like newbies dissing the books they're forced to read or how the teachers teach.</p>

<p>Oh, please don't start drinking and getting high just to be cool. That would be the worst thing. I don't condone either, but only do it if you want to, not in attempt to be cool.</p>

<p>Also, popularity is overrated.</p>

<p>good to hear that my advice was encouraging:D</p>

<p>anyways, good luck Weezerfan!</p>

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let me ask this...are popular people kind of edgy and mean? that is what i've seen in the united states...guys who girls like are always a little mean. in india, people would be mean, but it was clear they were kidding...here, it isn't. they're always nice with quiet guys like me tho...hm.

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<p>I'm a bit of both. I'm mean at times for kicks and giggles. I'm mean at times cause of EC commitments, especially, with clubs. I'm the "loud" jock type in class, yet i'm also very introverted at times. I have friends from pretty much 90% of the cliques at school and i do ALOT of clique hopping. </p>

<p>For me, things have worked out quite well. I don't go after the girls who go after jocks. I'm more into similar introverted girls. ie those quiet ones. The good thign with these girls is, they are drop dead gorgeous at times, very very very nice personalities (not wild), and damn classy.</p>

<p>So ya, depends on your style. My type of girls aren't into mean guys, either.</p>

<p>I just saw a threat pop up called "Are Asian Guys Short..." etc. I have some problem with my height. Is anyone in a similar situation? Sometimes I'm so short that I think it's hopeless to try to act cool or even try to be an extrovert. Does anyone else have that problem? Any tips to counteract it (either to become taller or to become comfortable with my heighth?). I know people generally like guys who are taller...</p>

<p>one of my best male friends is really short. his personality definitely outweighs his height, so i wouldn't worry about it too much.</p>

<p>There's not much you can really do about your height. One of my friends has the same problem...</p>

<p>How does he forget about it? Or get over it?</p>

<p>Hang out with people shorter than you! ;) Well, as long as you're comfortable with who you are, then it really shouldn't matter</p>

<p>haha problem is i'm not :) plus, there aren't many people shorter than me</p>

<p>get some confidence and some balls.... lift weights (google for "bodybuilding").... internalize unstoppable confidence in yourself and the girls will flock.... be a leader.... being short is not an excuse to suck at life... if you be yourself and not try to be something you're not, people who like you for you will find you....</p>

<p>now if you are suffering teenage angst and don't want to actually be an awesome person, but want to be "popular", here's the easy steps:</p>

<p>A. start drinking/getting high with people and you'll make lots of "friends" (they won't actually be friends)
B. start learning how to manipulate people and shmooze at cocktail parties
C. start watching heavy doses of MTV and kill your brain
D. stop thinking for youself</p>

<p>i like your advice Reeze (the first part!)...</p>

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now if you are suffering teenage angst and don't want to actually be an awesome person, but want to be "popular", here's the easy steps:</p>

<p>A. start drinking/getting high with people and you'll make lots of "friends" (they won't actually be friends)
B. start learning how to manipulate people and shmooze at cocktail parties
C. start watching heavy doses of MTV and kill your brain
D. stop thinking for youself

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hehehe, that is a funny list. those are like stereotypical popular things. </p>

<p>but being a popular girl myself(or as close as you can come to being popular in my huge hs), i would have to say that I never go to "cocktail parties" and i only occasionally watch MTV. </p>

<p>However, i do know a lot of kids who get high and manipulate and indulge in the group mentality...</p>

<p>out of curiosity, ladies, do you prefer large guys with flabby bodies or short guys who have six-packs?</p>

<p>for me, i think it depends on personality. but mostly, i'd pick the more masculine of the 2. i love the idea of a guy who could protect me, so if the shorty could do that, i would pick him. </p>

<p>And, i'm not to into flabbiness so i think overall i would go with the shorter guy.</p>

<p>One of my closest friends moved from india three years ago. It was tough on him intially as well, but after a few years he has a lot of friends and is doing well. My advice to you is to simply be patient because things will work out in the end.</p>

<p>Hey theres nothing wrong with short guys one of my close friends is(was, haven’t seen him in 2 years) 4 ‘ 11”, that’s officially a midget lol, but as long as you’re a great person… I can see the getting girls problem, tho, cuz I never would have considered dating him, tho that may have had to do with the friendship more than the height… you could always look for shorter girls haha. Good luck.</p>

<p>Lemme start something going :D</p>

<p>Obviously you made a mistake asking CCers... they are all nerds and dont know much about being cool :)</p>

<p>About that be yourself thing... it wont work. You were yourself in India this is America! You have to change to fit the environment. If you be yourself your entire life you WILL get NOWHERE!!! People have to change.. face it! About Weight Training. I have been doing it for 2 years+. You cant lift weight now, knowing what you are doing and except to gain mass in one year.. That wont happen in america.</p>