<p>hi, i'm currently a senior right now and getting really scared and nervous about graduating...our whole class is pretty tight-knit and everyone will be going off in different directions...and i have a boyfriend of one year who i absolutely love but do u think our relationship will work out in college? should we break it off before heading off to college? and how did you guys cope with not being with the same people everyday?</p>
<p>anyone here?</p>
<p>Rule of thumb: Break off current relationships before going off to college.....there are going to be so many different and new people to get to know, be friends with, or more. You don't want to limit yourself because of a highschool relationship. And as for the friends thing, I couldn't be in a closer knit group than I am with my friends, but how can you cope WITH seeing the same people everyday? I can't wait to go and meet new people and not the same group I've been seeing since freshmen year.</p>
<p>I was in the same situation. I dated a guy for 2 years in high school we broke up right before the summer before college and for some unknown reason we got back together when college started. That was a big mistake we turned into 2 different people. My advice would be to break it off if it was ment to be you'll find your way back to each other.</p>
<p>few HS long-distance relationships make it past xmas of the 1st year, and almost all the rest are pver by the end of the year. Wonderful as your SO is, and I don't mean this facetiously, he isn't the only person in the world for you. That you met is less the mysterious workings of the cosmos and more a matter that you found someone you like at the HS you attend. When you attend college there will be lots of others just as wonderful and most people decide they'd rather be with one of these people whom they can actually share their day-to-day life with then spend it on long-distance phone calls and the occasional awkward visit.</p>
<p>My cousin and his girlfriend have been together since 2000 and they are juniors in two different, long distanve colleges.I guess it could work, but probably not.</p>
<p>The long distance thing can work.</p>
<p>You will miss your HS friends, but make so many new ones also. These will be the people who you become extremely close with, especially the ones you live with. I mean, geez, you see them all the time! They're your new family =P.</p>
<p>That said, with things like AIM, it's way way (x10000) easier to keep in touch with your friends from HS.</p>
<p>During the 1st semester, I don't think I did anything at school with the 8 other kids who went there with me from the class of '04. And now back home over break, I've done nothing with the college kids, just the friends from HS.</p>
<p>You can be friends with everyone!</p>
<p>woow kinda depressing reading that relationships don't work out. is it really that bad? ... i do understand there are TONS of new people at each other's respective colleges, but shouldn't like a ... 2-year relationship in high school at least mean something? kinda depressing to think that it was just 'cause the two people happened to be close... geographically?</p>
<p>Its a highschool relationship...they mean nothing. I know you might think your in "love", but how do you even know that for sure? And by limiting yourself in college, you never will. Also remember how much GROWING people do in college. Some change into totally different people. Chalk to relationship up to experience and end it over the summer or something. Or you can just choose to see what happens.</p>
<p>but what if, just for the sake of argument, you are with the right person, and because you let that person go, you never find a better match for you. then what?</p>
<p>i have been dating my boyfriend since the summer before senior year in high school, and i'm currently a college senior.. so it can work.</p>
<p>If its meant to be, you'll find yourself back together.</p>
<p>what if you let him/her go...and they find someone else...but you dont?</p>
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<p>Then its just not supposed to be then is it? Hell, if it does mean that much, then just "take a break" and see what happens?</p>
<p>wow you guys all need to calm down, I don't see how a high school relationship can mean much, experiences shape people and in high school you haven't experienced much of anything, you still live with your parents and have yet to make any major life choices there is no way a 14-18 yr old truly knows who he/she is when they've yet to truly live and embrace life they way they are meant to. If you don't even know yourself how can you possible choose the kind of person you want for years to come. HS relationships are about the here and now with scant few exceptions
I'm a realist...</p>
<p>the transition is much like how a caterpiller turns into a butterfly</p>
<p>Long distance relationships generally won't work. But, if you want to try it, that's fine.</p>
<p>Also, realize from the OUTSIDE almost everyone advocates a break up whenever there's trouble so just keep that in mind.</p>
<p>life wouldn't be half as interesting if everyone were realists. i might be naive, sure, 'cause i'm only a senior in high school, but sometimes people have to live for those exceptions, right? </p>
<p>but yeah, kevtrice, i agree. depends on if two people can take all the OUTSIDE influences... the "eh just dump him/her" comments lol ... but then again, finding the perfect person isn't for convenience.</p>