Hi guys! I don’t know how to describe this post, but here goes. Basically, I go to a school that I was really passionate about going to last year (when I was applying to schools!), and it has a great program for what I want to study, which is a program that’s rather hard to find. I’ve been here for about 3 weeks (I totally know that’s not enough time to judge the whole school, and I’m going to re-evaluate how I’m feeling at the end of midterms, and again after first semester) and it feels like everyone is settling in and making friends besides me. I love my classes, and I love living on my own, but I feel like I’m struggling to fit in socially. This wasn’t ever really a struggle for me in high school. My roommate has a group of girls who she hangs out with after classes/on weekends, and I hang out with them but I always feel a little left out because they all have classes together so they see each other all the time. I’ve joined some clubs, but only one of them has regular meetings; the other ones are all used as springboards for which to sponsor seminars and such if that makes sense. After talking to my parents about how I’ve been feeling, they asked if I wanted to transfer. It’s been something I’ve been thinking about, but as I’ve said I really want to love my school, and it’s obviously too early to decide. I guess I was just wondering if anyone had any advice for how to fit in and make friends at school besides the typical “join clubs” because I’ve signed up for everything I actually have an interest in, and I don’t really have the time/motivation to join clubs just for the sake of joining clubs. I really really really do want to love my school, I’m just having a really hard time finding my people and it’s hard because everyone else seems to have a group of people to hang out with already.
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I am in the exact same boat. I just transferred to a new school as well. I didn’t realize how hard it would be to make friends here since everyone else already has their groups established. Just know that you are not alone. We can only hope that it gets better. 
Please make an appointment with the counselor at your school. I guarantee there are many students feeling the same way. Have a look at the many threads with similar titles, because there are plenty of them, and there is a lot of good advice. Hang in there, and keep on hanging out with people, becasue these new friend groups are fluid and will change. You will meet people in class and at events. And it sounds like you should try a differnt club.
Here is a silly tip that works. Get a bag of chocolates, like M&Ms or goji berries. Put them in your backpack and when you sit down to study or whatever, sit near someone who looks friendly, pull out your chocolate, eat a few, and offer some to another person. Everyone likes candy.
@Lindagaf I’ll definitely try the candy thing!! That’s a great idea It’s gotten a bit better, but it’s still kind of tough going because my roommate has made a group of friends she hangs out with 24/7 and I’m still working on finding people to hang out with outside of classes.
Good attitude @gaiertl !good luck, and please report back and tell me if the trick works.